You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Perfect.Originally posted by MackJr
No. The dumber the chick, the more effective DJ tactics are. In fact, the really dumb ones don't really require tactics, they'll **** anything. Beyond that, though, you're dealing with compulsive and psycho chicks, so watch out.
I dated a girl who was way less intelligent than me, and it was sort of a problem. The techniques got her all hot and bothered, but intellectually our conversations were really boring to me. When we broke up, she described the opposite, that she was always struggling to catch up with what I said.
For LTRs, you'd do better with someone on your own level.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah, my ex is a super ditz. I just asked my best friend the other day what I was thinking dating someone like that. The ditzier, the more annoying.Originally posted by MackJr
No. The dumber the chick, the more effective DJ tactics are. In fact, the really dumb ones don't really require tactics, they'll **** anything. Beyond that, though, you're dealing with compulsive and psycho chicks, so watch out.
I dated a girl who was way less intelligent than me, and it was sort of a problem. The techniques got her all hot and bothered, but intellectually our conversations were really boring to me. When we broke up, she described the opposite, that she was always struggling to catch up with what I said.
For LTRs, you'd do better with someone on your own level.
If it's really bad it might be an act.Originally posted by bootlegger
i just want to sleep with her.
But she seems to be on another planet.
I'll playfully bump into her, and she'll jump back and start saying how sorry she is-etc - even though I'm looking her right in the eyes smiling before I bump her.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.