You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Perfect.Originally posted by MackJr
No. The dumber the chick, the more effective DJ tactics are. In fact, the really dumb ones don't really require tactics, they'll **** anything. Beyond that, though, you're dealing with compulsive and psycho chicks, so watch out.
I dated a girl who was way less intelligent than me, and it was sort of a problem. The techniques got her all hot and bothered, but intellectually our conversations were really boring to me. When we broke up, she described the opposite, that she was always struggling to catch up with what I said.
For LTRs, you'd do better with someone on your own level.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yeah, my ex is a super ditz. I just asked my best friend the other day what I was thinking dating someone like that. The ditzier, the more annoying.Originally posted by MackJr
No. The dumber the chick, the more effective DJ tactics are. In fact, the really dumb ones don't really require tactics, they'll **** anything. Beyond that, though, you're dealing with compulsive and psycho chicks, so watch out.
I dated a girl who was way less intelligent than me, and it was sort of a problem. The techniques got her all hot and bothered, but intellectually our conversations were really boring to me. When we broke up, she described the opposite, that she was always struggling to catch up with what I said.
For LTRs, you'd do better with someone on your own level.
If it's really bad it might be an act.Originally posted by bootlegger
i just want to sleep with her.
But she seems to be on another planet.
I'll playfully bump into her, and she'll jump back and start saying how sorry she is-etc - even though I'm looking her right in the eyes smiling before I bump her.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.