"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Are my standards/preferences unreasonable you guys??

bigdave17

Banned
Joined
Oct 25, 2017
Messages
3,064
Reaction score
581
Age
37
What I want

- Somebody between 22-28
- Not light skinned white. Light skinned white girls age horrible. I want a cute Spanish, Italian, Greek, maybe a Christian middle eastern or a mixed girl. Basically some kind of ethnic woman. I have an olive complexion so I want somebody with a similar complexion to me. If I was to date a white girl, she really has to be like 6-7 years younger than me.
- In decent shape/preferably hardcore into fitness
- decent job/decent with finances
- no kids
- intelligent/well spoken/classy
- super nice/sweet personality
- decent looking face/well dressed

Why can't I get the girls who fit these categories to want to go out with me? I'm not asking for anything I can't provide myself. I'm good to super elite in all those areas
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

marmel75

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2012
Messages
7,175
Reaction score
5,571
Maybe. Are you looking to date women or bring a car in for a 35 point inspection?

Lists are for women. Go out and meet women then decide if they are worth keeping around or not. You'll be surprised at how many things on your list you dont really care about in reality.
 

bigdave17

Banned
Joined
Oct 25, 2017
Messages
3,064
Reaction score
581
Age
37
Maybe. Are you looking to date women or bring a car in for a 35 point inspection?

Lists are for women. Go out and meet women then decide if they are worth keeping around or not. You'll be surprised at how many things on your list you dont really care about in reality.
I go out all the time and everything on that list is non negotiable really

I am not even attracted to women who don't look like they clearly enjoy working out for example.
 

marmel75

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2012
Messages
7,175
Reaction score
5,571
I go out all the time and everything on that list is non negotiable really

I am not even attracted to women who don't look like they clearly enjoy working out for example.
Then I guess good luck. The more requirements you have the fewer options you have. I'd examine why you think those are all requirements if I were you, personally.
 

bigdave17

Banned
Joined
Oct 25, 2017
Messages
3,064
Reaction score
581
Age
37
Then I guess good luck. The more requirements you have the fewer options you have. I'd examine why you think those are all requirements if I were you, personally.
Everything on there is common sense. I can't believe everybody doesn't have the same list

For example, I'm from a country near the middle east. My people don't have any wrinkles until they hit 65-70. I look at white women and they are a wrinkled mess by 45
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

marmel75

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 4, 2012
Messages
7,175
Reaction score
5,571
Everything on there is common sense. I can't believe everybody doesn't have the same list

For example, I'm from a country near the middle east. My people don't have any wrinkles until they hit 65-70. I look at white women and they are a wrinkled mess by 45
I guess you've just been meeting the wrong kind of white women then...I've banged a few hot white women who were near 50 that would put plenty of 30 year olds to shame.

Probably paying for a lot of it but regardless that isn't my business...

Well, then put yourself in areas those types of women are and get after it.
 

wifehunter

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 6, 2015
Messages
5,145
Reaction score
3,302
Age
52
Location
Hoe County, California
Why can't I get the girls who fit these categories to want to go out with me?
Because you lack 'frame'.

Work on attracting women, then revisit your standards list.

If there's no attaction, females will have no motivation to get to know you.

When a woman can have any man she wants, she does not want just any man.

BE scarce, BE rare, BE awesome.
 
Top