"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Are my standards/preferences unreasonable you guys??

bigdave17

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What I want

- Somebody between 22-28
- Not light skinned white. Light skinned white girls age horrible. I want a cute Spanish, Italian, Greek, maybe a Christian middle eastern or a mixed girl. Basically some kind of ethnic woman. I have an olive complexion so I want somebody with a similar complexion to me. If I was to date a white girl, she really has to be like 6-7 years younger than me.
- In decent shape/preferably hardcore into fitness
- decent job/decent with finances
- no kids
- intelligent/well spoken/classy
- super nice/sweet personality
- decent looking face/well dressed

Why can't I get the girls who fit these categories to want to go out with me? I'm not asking for anything I can't provide myself. I'm good to super elite in all those areas
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Maybe. Are you looking to date women or bring a car in for a 35 point inspection?

Lists are for women. Go out and meet women then decide if they are worth keeping around or not. You'll be surprised at how many things on your list you dont really care about in reality.
 

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Maybe. Are you looking to date women or bring a car in for a 35 point inspection?

Lists are for women. Go out and meet women then decide if they are worth keeping around or not. You'll be surprised at how many things on your list you dont really care about in reality.
I go out all the time and everything on that list is non negotiable really

I am not even attracted to women who don't look like they clearly enjoy working out for example.
 

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I go out all the time and everything on that list is non negotiable really

I am not even attracted to women who don't look like they clearly enjoy working out for example.
Then I guess good luck. The more requirements you have the fewer options you have. I'd examine why you think those are all requirements if I were you, personally.
 

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Then I guess good luck. The more requirements you have the fewer options you have. I'd examine why you think those are all requirements if I were you, personally.
Everything on there is common sense. I can't believe everybody doesn't have the same list

For example, I'm from a country near the middle east. My people don't have any wrinkles until they hit 65-70. I look at white women and they are a wrinkled mess by 45
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Everything on there is common sense. I can't believe everybody doesn't have the same list

For example, I'm from a country near the middle east. My people don't have any wrinkles until they hit 65-70. I look at white women and they are a wrinkled mess by 45
I guess you've just been meeting the wrong kind of white women then...I've banged a few hot white women who were near 50 that would put plenty of 30 year olds to shame.

Probably paying for a lot of it but regardless that isn't my business...

Well, then put yourself in areas those types of women are and get after it.
 

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Why can't I get the girls who fit these categories to want to go out with me?
Because you lack 'frame'.

Work on attracting women, then revisit your standards list.

If there's no attaction, females will have no motivation to get to know you.

When a woman can have any man she wants, she does not want just any man.

BE scarce, BE rare, BE awesome.
 
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