"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Are my standards/preferences unreasonable you guys??

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What I want

- Somebody between 22-28
- Not light skinned white. Light skinned white girls age horrible. I want a cute Spanish, Italian, Greek, maybe a Christian middle eastern or a mixed girl. Basically some kind of ethnic woman. I have an olive complexion so I want somebody with a similar complexion to me. If I was to date a white girl, she really has to be like 6-7 years younger than me.
- In decent shape/preferably hardcore into fitness
- decent job/decent with finances
- no kids
- intelligent/well spoken/classy
- super nice/sweet personality
- decent looking face/well dressed

Why can't I get the girls who fit these categories to want to go out with me? I'm not asking for anything I can't provide myself. I'm good to super elite in all those areas
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Maybe. Are you looking to date women or bring a car in for a 35 point inspection?

Lists are for women. Go out and meet women then decide if they are worth keeping around or not. You'll be surprised at how many things on your list you dont really care about in reality.
 
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marmel75 said:
Maybe. Are you looking to date women or bring a car in for a 35 point inspection?

Lists are for women. Go out and meet women then decide if they are worth keeping around or not. You'll be surprised at how many things on your list you dont really care about in reality.
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I go out all the time and everything on that list is non negotiable really

I am not even attracted to women who don't look like they clearly enjoy working out for example.
 
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I go out all the time and everything on that list is non negotiable really

I am not even attracted to women who don't look like they clearly enjoy working out for example.
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Then I guess good luck. The more requirements you have the fewer options you have. I'd examine why you think those are all requirements if I were you, personally.
 
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Then I guess good luck. The more requirements you have the fewer options you have. I'd examine why you think those are all requirements if I were you, personally.
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Everything on there is common sense. I can't believe everybody doesn't have the same list

For example, I'm from a country near the middle east. My people don't have any wrinkles until they hit 65-70. I look at white women and they are a wrinkled mess by 45
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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bigdave17 said:
Everything on there is common sense. I can't believe everybody doesn't have the same list

For example, I'm from a country near the middle east. My people don't have any wrinkles until they hit 65-70. I look at white women and they are a wrinkled mess by 45
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I guess you've just been meeting the wrong kind of white women then...I've banged a few hot white women who were near 50 that would put plenty of 30 year olds to shame.

Probably paying for a lot of it but regardless that isn't my business...

Well, then put yourself in areas those types of women are and get after it.
 
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bigdave17 said:
Why can't I get the girls who fit these categories to want to go out with me?
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Because you lack 'frame'.

Work on attracting women, then revisit your standards list.

If there's no attaction, females will have no motivation to get to know you.

When a woman can have any man she wants, she does not want just any man.

BE scarce, BE rare, BE awesome.
 
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