"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Appropriate time for the second kiss?

mothballs

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Some of you may remember that my mom introduced me to this girl at an afternoon get together at her place. It turns out I didn't have to do anything to get her cell number because I had told my mom that I liked her taste and she goes and tells the girl and drops the number in my lap... while I was on here asking advice about calling her at work. So I called her up and set up the first date etc.

We just went out last night and I had a great time with her and it was clearly the right time go give her a kiss at the end of the date... she leaned in as I did... All in all I had a great time. She said she also had a great time and agreed to a second date next weekend and told I her I'd call her this week (planning on Tues.) about it. So... now what the hell do I do about the second kiss? Is it a nono to greet her next time (thinking this is not the best idea) with a kiss? Or should I try to escalate at some more romantic time during the date? (or both?) The first date was just some coffee, dinner at Friendly's and an artsy fartsy movie... light stuff. Next will be a more romantic setting for dinner and some form of entertainment in a one on one setting (movie at her place probably). Obviously I need to at the very minimum close our dates from now on with a kiss.

And an FYI, my previous and only real GF was my friend and we were fooling around before we ever went on a real date. I've spent 9 years mostly staying out of the thick of College womanizing drama... screening a handful of women but never really finding a spark that told me to persue. Everything I did last night was fresh material simply from reading books on small talk, body language, psychology and forums like this one. I'm proof positive that if you just put what you know into action it will work. Maintaining conversation and keeping body language in check wasn't nearly as hard as I had it in my mind.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Kiss on the cheek for hello. You cant go wrong. then give here a real kiss as soon as there is a pause in the convo.
 

mothballs

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I'm more looking to aviod the wrong time... Doesn't sound like there's really an answer to that.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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mothballs

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sodbuster said:
If she's into you,the only wrong time will be infront of her parents.
haha true... though we're both adults so there's less of a threat of running from shotgun blasts. That's how I guaged the first kiss... we were standing out on the sidewalk, with maybe a couple onlookers a block away, but we were clearly getting along great, so I just went for it. I knew once we were sitting there watching the movie that I'd do it, but I didn't pull any bull**** moves in the theater like she might expect... just let her wait and guess if I had the balls to do it at the end of the night.
 
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