can u go and say, 'hi, i'm ...' to a girl in a group, whether all girls or mixed? has anyone pulled off such thing successfully? i feel you can but you need to have the right and a very strong vibe for that.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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You can use what they use on Mystery's show:
"Hey, do you guys thing David Bowie is hot?"
"Hey, do you guys thing David Bowie is hot?"
MisterMcGee
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Why are things like this is DJ discussion when it's sad pickup artist confidence-lacking girls-are-the-prize stuff?
daygameguy
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If somebody asked that to my group, I'd be like "You gotta be kiddin me...is that the best you could come up with..lol"Relationship-Buddy said:You can use what they use on Mystery's show:
"Hey, do you guys thing David Bowie is hot?"
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
daygameguy
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I have used that many many times, it works like a charm.schttrj said:can u go and say, 'hi, i'm ...' to a girl in a group, whether all girls or mixed? has anyone pulled off such thing successfully? i feel you can but you need to have the right and a very strong vibe for that.
Just have a big as$ smile and respect everyone in the group.
You know, in pickup, its not what you say, but what you say NEXT!
So think 1 step ahead.
Anything can work when you say it with complete confidence. Believe that what you'll say will be great and it will.
A friend and I were walking towards the movie theater and we opened a group of 3 guys and 2 girls we didn't know with:
"And I thought he *points to my friend* looked bored today...but, look at you guys!"
It was clear that one of the girls was taken (holding hands) but we decided to approach because the other chick was hot. They laughed and "sweet couple" left us talking with the guys and the chick. My friend ad I believe in helping each other so since he was feeling the chick a lot more than me I kept the guys busy so he could get the girl's #.
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A friend and I were walking towards the movie theater and we opened a group of 3 guys and 2 girls we didn't know with:
"And I thought he *points to my friend* looked bored today...but, look at you guys!"
It was clear that one of the girls was taken (holding hands) but we decided to approach because the other chick was hot. They laughed and "sweet couple" left us talking with the guys and the chick. My friend ad I believe in helping each other so since he was feeling the chick a lot more than me I kept the guys busy so he could get the girl's #.
-VdoubleR
seems to be the real deal from the others. thanks man. so it works.daygameguy said:I have used that many many times, it works like a charm.
Just have a big as$ smile and respect everyone in the group.
You know, in pickup, its not what you say, but what you say NEXT!
So think 1 step ahead.
MisterMcGee
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You do something - she looks at you like "huh?" or "this guy's making a move.." or "what's this?" - you just go along with what you're doing, not even phased that what you did may be weird or whatever.
She'll go along with you
She'll go along with you