When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
ok respectufully how the actual **** is this possible, you're expecting me to go to the group and like basically 1v4 them??? unless you want me to go with a friend or somethingSame way as with any other woman you're attracted to. I wouldn't buy them anything.
Most likely they will be in groups, so you'll have to introduce yourself to the whole group enough to make them all feel comfortable with you, then you'll try to pull her away for a dance or to get her number.
lol. wait till you find out you not only can approach a girl in a group of 4 by yourself. but can go home with her without saying more than a few short sentences to the guys she’s with.ok respectufully how the actual **** is this possible, you're expecting me to go to the group and like basically 1v4 them??? unless you want me to go with a friend or something
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I do it alone all of the time. I've done 18 cold approaches year to date so far, 96 last year, and I would say more than 80% of them were me versus a group of girls. Go straight into hard mode and you'll get better, keep at it and eventually you'll get good at it.ok respectufully how the actual **** is this possible, you're expecting me to go to the group and like basically 1v4 them??? unless you want me to go with a friend or something
how many converted in lays if you dont mind me askingI do it alone all of the time. I've done 18 cold approaches year to date so far, 96 last year, and I would say more than 80% of them were me versus a group of girls. Go straight into hard mode and you'll get better, keep at it and eventually you'll get good at it.
how? what do you mean by thislol. wait till you find out you not only can approach a girl in a group of 4 by yourself. but can go home with her without saying more than a few short sentences to the guys she’s with.
Zero. I'm a 2/10 in looks. The important thing is that I'm living the way I need to. I will succeed, it is going to take a lot of work though. Most likely you'll have more success than I do, if you put some effort into it.how many converted in lays if you dont mind me asking
what didn’t you get? lol. you go to a college bar. and then approach a girl you like. exchange a few meaningless words to her and her friend group and then either grab an uber together or get her number and meet her another night. prerequisite is to as i’ve explained to you before is to get as good looking as possible (skincare, hair), wear what’s in style, and increase your height (there are shoes that add 2.5 (and more) inches to your height). why? because this makes approaching the girl you like easy (she’ll be smiling when you make eye contact with her) and #2 her friends won’t interfere bc they want their friend to hookup with a hot guy (unless that girl has a boyfriend). and also it makes the words you say not matter (still is your job to pay attention to her suggestions (asking where you live, saying she’s tired and wants to go soon etc) and orchestrate catching an uber).how? what do you mean by this
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
so basically looksmaxxing. nice really comes back down to looks at the end of the daywhat didn’t you get? lol. you go to a college bar. and then approach a girl you like. exchange a few meaningless words to her and her friend group and then either grab an uber together or get her number and meet her another night. prerequisite is to as i’ve explained to you before is to get as good looking as possible (skincare, hair), wear what’s in style, and increase your height (there are shoes that add 2.5 (and more) inches to your height). why? because this makes approaching the girl you like easy (she’ll be smiling when you make eye contact with her) and #2 her friends won’t interfere bc they want their friend to hookup with a hot guy (unless that girl has a boyfriend). and also it makes the words you say not matter (still is your job to pay attention to her suggestions (asking where you live, saying she’s tired and wants to go soon etc) and orchestrate catching an uber).
I'll make it simpler. They're basically telling you to RELAX. You're not going to be able to put 2&2 together no matter how much schnitt you read on here or in any RP author or PUA course. You have to go out and try. Work on some exercises to boost confidence if you haven't yet established a baseline.so basically looksmaxxing. nice really comes back down to looks at the end of the day
when do i know when to walk away? when their not being receptive? how do i break out of that conversationI'll make it simpler. They're basically telling you to RELAX. You're not going to be able to put 2&2 together no matter how much schnitt you read on here or in any RP author or PUA course. You have to go out and try. Work on some exercises to boost confidence if you haven't yet established a baseline.
Once you have enough imagined approaches, do yourself a favor and just go for it. You're going to screw up. A lot. You're also going to learn a lot. Most of what you're going to discover is that it won't go nearly as bad as you think it will. Imagine you're gaining experience. Because you are. Don't go in with the focus of getting laid or finding your wife and mother of your spawn.
Go in there knowing you'll learn something and experience something. You go about it that way and you'll find out that some of your "Lessons" you learn will be hands on "labs" where you can experiment. hehe. What do you want? Our approval? Enrollment in DJing 101 has a super high cost of tuition. ENTHUSIASM! You go into it like something that will suck, how fun is that going to be?
It's fun to talk to pretty ladies. That's it. It's fun to see them smile at you and lock eyes. Other stuff is fun too, but you'll get there only by trying it out. Practice talking to girls anywhere you go or just making eye contact, smiling and nodding as you walk by them. Then, when the weekend gets here go to one college bar each weekend day or night and try it out.
There's no special 'technique' that you'll use to get a girl separated from the group. Engage the WHOLE group. If they seem to be receptive, you're IN. Find a common ground with the one you're interested in. Chances are, one of the ladies in the group who you didn't think would be will be the most interesting to you. Then again, maybe you give them the ick. Bounce and try another place. Don't waste time.
How would you break away from this one if I said something you weren't keen on?when do i know when to walk away? when their not being receptive? how do i break out of that conversation
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.