“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

Read more...

Approaching chicks at college bar

revannt

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 6, 2026
Messages
54
Reaction score
9
what are the best methods to approach college chicks at the bar? does anyone know or have any recommendations to this? do i need to buy them a drink or something? what is the best method to go about this?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

Read more...

taiyuu_otoko

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 10, 2008
Messages
5,680
Reaction score
4,661
Location
象外
Hi, I'm professor Likhersnatch, and I'm doing research on optimal insertion angles to maximize the female orgasm. Can I buy you a drink?
 

Plinco

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 29, 2008
Messages
2,896
Reaction score
1,794
Age
42
Same way as with any other woman you're attracted to. I wouldn't buy them anything.

Most likely they will be in groups, so you'll have to introduce yourself to the whole group enough to make them all feel comfortable with you, then you'll try to pull her away for a dance or to get her number.
 

revannt

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 6, 2026
Messages
54
Reaction score
9
Same way as with any other woman you're attracted to. I wouldn't buy them anything.

Most likely they will be in groups, so you'll have to introduce yourself to the whole group enough to make them all feel comfortable with you, then you'll try to pull her away for a dance or to get her number.
ok respectufully how the actual **** is this possible, you're expecting me to go to the group and like basically 1v4 them??? unless you want me to go with a friend or something
 

Velasco

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 25, 2021
Messages
1,302
Reaction score
1,476
Age
32
ok respectufully how the actual **** is this possible, you're expecting me to go to the group and like basically 1v4 them??? unless you want me to go with a friend or something
lol. wait till you find out you not only can approach a girl in a group of 4 by yourself. but can go home with her without saying more than a few short sentences to the guys she’s with.
 

Plinco

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 29, 2008
Messages
2,896
Reaction score
1,794
Age
42
ok respectufully how the actual **** is this possible, you're expecting me to go to the group and like basically 1v4 them??? unless you want me to go with a friend or something
I do it alone all of the time. I've done 18 cold approaches year to date so far, 96 last year, and I would say more than 80% of them were me versus a group of girls. Go straight into hard mode and you'll get better, keep at it and eventually you'll get good at it.
 

revannt

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 6, 2026
Messages
54
Reaction score
9
I do it alone all of the time. I've done 18 cold approaches year to date so far, 96 last year, and I would say more than 80% of them were me versus a group of girls. Go straight into hard mode and you'll get better, keep at it and eventually you'll get good at it.
how many converted in lays if you dont mind me asking
 

revannt

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 6, 2026
Messages
54
Reaction score
9
lol. wait till you find out you not only can approach a girl in a group of 4 by yourself. but can go home with her without saying more than a few short sentences to the guys she’s with.
how? what do you mean by this
 

Plinco

Master Don Juan
Joined
Oct 29, 2008
Messages
2,896
Reaction score
1,794
Age
42
how many converted in lays if you dont mind me asking
Zero. I'm a 2/10 in looks. The important thing is that I'm living the way I need to. I will succeed, it is going to take a lot of work though. Most likely you'll have more success than I do, if you put some effort into it.
 

Velasco

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 25, 2021
Messages
1,302
Reaction score
1,476
Age
32
how? what do you mean by this
what didn’t you get? lol. you go to a college bar. and then approach a girl you like. exchange a few meaningless words to her and her friend group and then either grab an uber together or get her number and meet her another night. prerequisite is to as i’ve explained to you before is to get as good looking as possible (skincare, hair), wear what’s in style, and increase your height (there are shoes that add 2.5 (and more) inches to your height). why? because this makes approaching the girl you like easy (she’ll be smiling when you make eye contact with her) and #2 her friends won’t interfere bc they want their friend to hookup with a hot guy (unless that girl has a boyfriend). and also it makes the words you say not matter (still is your job to pay attention to her suggestions (asking where you live, saying she’s tired and wants to go soon etc) and orchestrate catching an uber).
 

revannt

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 6, 2026
Messages
54
Reaction score
9
what didn’t you get? lol. you go to a college bar. and then approach a girl you like. exchange a few meaningless words to her and her friend group and then either grab an uber together or get her number and meet her another night. prerequisite is to as i’ve explained to you before is to get as good looking as possible (skincare, hair), wear what’s in style, and increase your height (there are shoes that add 2.5 (and more) inches to your height). why? because this makes approaching the girl you like easy (she’ll be smiling when you make eye contact with her) and #2 her friends won’t interfere bc they want their friend to hookup with a hot guy (unless that girl has a boyfriend). and also it makes the words you say not matter (still is your job to pay attention to her suggestions (asking where you live, saying she’s tired and wants to go soon etc) and orchestrate catching an uber).
so basically looksmaxxing. nice really comes back down to looks at the end of the day
 

RoadKing_Rabbit

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 10, 2024
Messages
307
Reaction score
262
Age
41
Location
Midwest
so basically looksmaxxing. nice really comes back down to looks at the end of the day
I'll make it simpler. They're basically telling you to RELAX. You're not going to be able to put 2&2 together no matter how much schnitt you read on here or in any RP author or PUA course. You have to go out and try. Work on some exercises to boost confidence if you haven't yet established a baseline.

Once you have enough imagined approaches, do yourself a favor and just go for it. You're going to screw up. A lot. You're also going to learn a lot. Most of what you're going to discover is that it won't go nearly as bad as you think it will. Imagine you're gaining experience. Because you are. Don't go in with the focus of getting laid or finding your wife and mother of your spawn.

Go in there knowing you'll learn something and experience something. You go about it that way and you'll find out that some of your "Lessons" you learn will be hands on "labs" where you can experiment. hehe. What do you want? Our approval? Enrollment in DJing 101 has a super high cost of tuition. ENTHUSIASM! You go into it like something that will suck, how fun is that going to be?

It's fun to talk to pretty ladies. That's it. It's fun to see them smile at you and lock eyes. Other stuff is fun too, but you'll get there only by trying it out. Practice talking to girls anywhere you go or just making eye contact, smiling and nodding as you walk by them. Then, when the weekend gets here go to one college bar each weekend day or night and try it out.

There's no special 'technique' that you'll use to get a girl separated from the group. Engage the WHOLE group. If they seem to be receptive, you're IN. Find a common ground with the one you're interested in. Chances are, one of the ladies in the group who you didn't think would be will be the most interesting to you. Then again, maybe you give them the ick. Bounce and try another place. Don't waste time.
 

revannt

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 6, 2026
Messages
54
Reaction score
9
I'll make it simpler. They're basically telling you to RELAX. You're not going to be able to put 2&2 together no matter how much schnitt you read on here or in any RP author or PUA course. You have to go out and try. Work on some exercises to boost confidence if you haven't yet established a baseline.

Once you have enough imagined approaches, do yourself a favor and just go for it. You're going to screw up. A lot. You're also going to learn a lot. Most of what you're going to discover is that it won't go nearly as bad as you think it will. Imagine you're gaining experience. Because you are. Don't go in with the focus of getting laid or finding your wife and mother of your spawn.

Go in there knowing you'll learn something and experience something. You go about it that way and you'll find out that some of your "Lessons" you learn will be hands on "labs" where you can experiment. hehe. What do you want? Our approval? Enrollment in DJing 101 has a super high cost of tuition. ENTHUSIASM! You go into it like something that will suck, how fun is that going to be?

It's fun to talk to pretty ladies. That's it. It's fun to see them smile at you and lock eyes. Other stuff is fun too, but you'll get there only by trying it out. Practice talking to girls anywhere you go or just making eye contact, smiling and nodding as you walk by them. Then, when the weekend gets here go to one college bar each weekend day or night and try it out.

There's no special 'technique' that you'll use to get a girl separated from the group. Engage the WHOLE group. If they seem to be receptive, you're IN. Find a common ground with the one you're interested in. Chances are, one of the ladies in the group who you didn't think would be will be the most interesting to you. Then again, maybe you give them the ick. Bounce and try another place. Don't waste time.
when do i know when to walk away? when their not being receptive? how do i break out of that conversation
 

RoadKing_Rabbit

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 10, 2024
Messages
307
Reaction score
262
Age
41
Location
Midwest
when do i know when to walk away? when their not being receptive? how do i break out of that conversation
How would you break away from this one if I said something you weren't keen on?

That's something you need to figure out for yourself. Are they all 3s on the scale when you get closer? You may just want to walk away. IF someone is straight up ignoring you (unlikely), it's kind of impossible so you don't need to worry.

If you're put off by them just get back to something else and say "Nice meeting you, I'm going to go ___." It's easier if you pick a venue that has darts, pool, or something else. Gives you an easy out. And you can start a new hobby. Then you can ask a lady while you're doing it "Hey, want to play? Why not? It's fun! You've gotta try!" etc... If you're with a friend it's easy, "I'd better get back to my buddy before he throws a fit."

Ultimately, you need to decide what you like and don't like too. It's not just about how awkward you look or how shy you are. Because once you get past the awkwardness and shyness, you're going to need to know what YOU want. And if they don't got it, they don't got it. Maybe you're looking for more than a barfly who will give it up to the first guy who asks or maybe that's exactly what you want forever? Not here to be the judge of that. But you'll need to know the tells for that kind of thing, and the only way to know is to TRY.
 

Travel memoir21

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 20, 2020
Messages
1,863
Reaction score
1,068
Age
40
Location
Rio Grande Valley, Texas
Get your social skills up to par. I suggest you use chat gpt and make yourself a social skills bootcamp to get yourself talking to strangers. Chat up everyone there and get your own personal warm up routine. Could be talking to that bouncer or bartender first for a few minutes to get that social momentum going. Everytime you pick up women, you gotta make it a point that it's not a big deal and you'll gladly live your life happily even if you were rejected.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Top