A friend and I recently applied for the same job. We both currently work for the same organization, but the job is for a higher position. I ended up getting the job, but now I feel bad, like I shouldn’t have applied or something since he did first and was expecting to get it. When I applied I was looking out for number 1, which is me, and didn’t think much of it just wanted to do what was best for me and advance my career. But now that I actually got it I feel kind of bad. Was I wrong in applying for this job too?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
applied for the same job as friend
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
GlutusMaximus86
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You should probably just talk to him, find out how he feels about it, and go from there.
McKindley
Senior Don Juan
Good job looking out for number one. If you aren't looking out for you, then no one else will.
However, you should still talk it over with your friend. Make sure you're still on good terms. He should probably get over it unless he's a douche.
You could approach the situation like along the lines of 'now that I've moved up, we'll get YOU moved up as soon as we can. Then we can really start making things work around here the way we want them to work.' Make sure he knows that you're looking out for him. Make sure he knows that you two are still tight and you don't see this shift as permanent, just temporary until you two can both be moved up and level again.
Or at least that's what I'd do.
However, you should still talk it over with your friend. Make sure you're still on good terms. He should probably get over it unless he's a douche.
You could approach the situation like along the lines of 'now that I've moved up, we'll get YOU moved up as soon as we can. Then we can really start making things work around here the way we want them to work.' Make sure he knows that you're looking out for him. Make sure he knows that you two are still tight and you don't see this shift as permanent, just temporary until you two can both be moved up and level again.
Or at least that's what I'd do.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
How did you find out about the position?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
dude.. u did the right thing..Originally posted by toast
A friend and I recently applied for the same job. We both currently work for the same organization, but the job is for a higher position. I ended up getting the job, but now I feel bad, like I shouldn’t have applied or something since he did first and was expecting to get it. When I applied I was looking out for number 1, which is me, and didn’t think much of it just wanted to do what was best for me and advance my career. But now that I actually got it I feel kind of bad. Was I wrong in applying for this job too?
as mentioned, he'll only be upset if hes a "douche".
its true.
chances are he is a "douche" most people are.
would he have held back if u applied first?
hell no.
now all you have to do is f*ck his girlfriend and you'll show him who's the true alpha male.
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Why didn't you talk to your friend about applying for the position first......
Hey man, im gonna apply for the same job, Ihope you dont act like a p**** if Iget it and you dont............
Hey man, im gonna apply for the same job, Ihope you dont act like a p**** if Iget it and you dont............
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Then don't sweat it. Just as long as you didn't take advantage of your friend who might had confided in you that he was applying for it. Congratulations...Originally posted by toast
my supervisor encouraged me to apply for it.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
Those who get promoted are the ones the boss picks because they are the best of the bunch. If he chose you over your friend it means you either work better or are better qualified.
circle of life, survival of the fittest, whatever. The best get promoted.
circle of life, survival of the fittest, whatever. The best get promoted.