A friend and I recently applied for the same job. We both currently work for the same organization, but the job is for a higher position. I ended up getting the job, but now I feel bad, like I shouldn’t have applied or something since he did first and was expecting to get it. When I applied I was looking out for number 1, which is me, and didn’t think much of it just wanted to do what was best for me and advance my career. But now that I actually got it I feel kind of bad. Was I wrong in applying for this job too?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
applied for the same job as friend
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
GlutusMaximus86
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You should probably just talk to him, find out how he feels about it, and go from there.
McKindley
Senior Don Juan
Good job looking out for number one. If you aren't looking out for you, then no one else will.
However, you should still talk it over with your friend. Make sure you're still on good terms. He should probably get over it unless he's a douche.
You could approach the situation like along the lines of 'now that I've moved up, we'll get YOU moved up as soon as we can. Then we can really start making things work around here the way we want them to work.' Make sure he knows that you're looking out for him. Make sure he knows that you two are still tight and you don't see this shift as permanent, just temporary until you two can both be moved up and level again.
Or at least that's what I'd do.
However, you should still talk it over with your friend. Make sure you're still on good terms. He should probably get over it unless he's a douche.
You could approach the situation like along the lines of 'now that I've moved up, we'll get YOU moved up as soon as we can. Then we can really start making things work around here the way we want them to work.' Make sure he knows that you're looking out for him. Make sure he knows that you two are still tight and you don't see this shift as permanent, just temporary until you two can both be moved up and level again.
Or at least that's what I'd do.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
How did you find out about the position?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dude.. u did the right thing..Originally posted by toast
A friend and I recently applied for the same job. We both currently work for the same organization, but the job is for a higher position. I ended up getting the job, but now I feel bad, like I shouldn’t have applied or something since he did first and was expecting to get it. When I applied I was looking out for number 1, which is me, and didn’t think much of it just wanted to do what was best for me and advance my career. But now that I actually got it I feel kind of bad. Was I wrong in applying for this job too?
as mentioned, he'll only be upset if hes a "douche".
its true.
chances are he is a "douche" most people are.
would he have held back if u applied first?
hell no.
now all you have to do is f*ck his girlfriend and you'll show him who's the true alpha male.
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Why didn't you talk to your friend about applying for the position first......
Hey man, im gonna apply for the same job, Ihope you dont act like a p**** if Iget it and you dont............
Hey man, im gonna apply for the same job, Ihope you dont act like a p**** if Iget it and you dont............
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Then don't sweat it. Just as long as you didn't take advantage of your friend who might had confided in you that he was applying for it. Congratulations...Originally posted by toast
my supervisor encouraged me to apply for it.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
Those who get promoted are the ones the boss picks because they are the best of the bunch. If he chose you over your friend it means you either work better or are better qualified.
circle of life, survival of the fittest, whatever. The best get promoted.
circle of life, survival of the fittest, whatever. The best get promoted.