A friend and I recently applied for the same job. We both currently work for the same organization, but the job is for a higher position. I ended up getting the job, but now I feel bad, like I shouldn’t have applied or something since he did first and was expecting to get it. When I applied I was looking out for number 1, which is me, and didn’t think much of it just wanted to do what was best for me and advance my career. But now that I actually got it I feel kind of bad. Was I wrong in applying for this job too?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
applied for the same job as friend
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
GlutusMaximus86
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You should probably just talk to him, find out how he feels about it, and go from there.
McKindley
Senior Don Juan
Good job looking out for number one. If you aren't looking out for you, then no one else will.
However, you should still talk it over with your friend. Make sure you're still on good terms. He should probably get over it unless he's a douche.
You could approach the situation like along the lines of 'now that I've moved up, we'll get YOU moved up as soon as we can. Then we can really start making things work around here the way we want them to work.' Make sure he knows that you're looking out for him. Make sure he knows that you two are still tight and you don't see this shift as permanent, just temporary until you two can both be moved up and level again.
Or at least that's what I'd do.
However, you should still talk it over with your friend. Make sure you're still on good terms. He should probably get over it unless he's a douche.
You could approach the situation like along the lines of 'now that I've moved up, we'll get YOU moved up as soon as we can. Then we can really start making things work around here the way we want them to work.' Make sure he knows that you're looking out for him. Make sure he knows that you two are still tight and you don't see this shift as permanent, just temporary until you two can both be moved up and level again.
Or at least that's what I'd do.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
How did you find out about the position?
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
dude.. u did the right thing..Originally posted by toast
A friend and I recently applied for the same job. We both currently work for the same organization, but the job is for a higher position. I ended up getting the job, but now I feel bad, like I shouldn’t have applied or something since he did first and was expecting to get it. When I applied I was looking out for number 1, which is me, and didn’t think much of it just wanted to do what was best for me and advance my career. But now that I actually got it I feel kind of bad. Was I wrong in applying for this job too?
as mentioned, he'll only be upset if hes a "douche".
its true.
chances are he is a "douche" most people are.
would he have held back if u applied first?
hell no.
now all you have to do is f*ck his girlfriend and you'll show him who's the true alpha male.
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Why didn't you talk to your friend about applying for the position first......
Hey man, im gonna apply for the same job, Ihope you dont act like a p**** if Iget it and you dont............
Hey man, im gonna apply for the same job, Ihope you dont act like a p**** if Iget it and you dont............
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Then don't sweat it. Just as long as you didn't take advantage of your friend who might had confided in you that he was applying for it. Congratulations...Originally posted by toast
my supervisor encouraged me to apply for it.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Joe The Homophobe
Master Don Juan
Those who get promoted are the ones the boss picks because they are the best of the bunch. If he chose you over your friend it means you either work better or are better qualified.
circle of life, survival of the fittest, whatever. The best get promoted.
circle of life, survival of the fittest, whatever. The best get promoted.