"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Anyone tried speed dating event?

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Has anyone met a woman through speed dating event? Is there pros & cons to this event?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I went to the speed dating event. It was really fun. There were 22 gals/ 22 guys in the room. Each guy has 4 min to present his personality to the ladies. I haven't received reply from the event organizer if I got a match. I am fumming mad. I left several voicemail messages. :cuss: I get a hold of them by any means.


I finally contact the organizer of dating event. They told me that I didn't have a match. I am shocked !!! All the women turn me down. I might not look like brad pitt but I am no chopped liver.

I will try again.:rock:
 
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So the upside is the chance to meet 22 women in one evening . . . and the downside is the chance to get rejected by 22 women in one evening.

Wow. I definitely could not handle that. Props to you for going, though, I think it takes some courage.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have done a few speed dating events and they rock.

You need to be well dressed and come up with some clever and interesting routines based on the simple questions you'll ask and get asked. i.e. "what do you do for a living". "what do you do for fun" etc. You only have five minutes to chat these chicks up so you'd better plan ahead. It's like a job interview. If no chicks pick you it means you really did not prepare. They are all single and wanting to meet new people, so you need to be your best self, be fun, charming, interested in them, etc.

I matched with every chick I picked (and I was selective) and got a few dates and lays out of the whole thing. Definately worth the time and money.

Don't give up on it.

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