"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Anyone think that online dating and IG is essentially a weak move?

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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zekko

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Unfortunately, it has become part of the modern dating process. A woman can meet you through an app, mutual friends, or in person and then use your IG to get more context about who you are. It shows your social life, interests, lifestyle, friends, and how other people interact with you. They use the app to get enough context and information to verify who you are and feel more comfortable with you; it is part of the vetting process.
I've refused to join Facebook, and I'm not on Instagram or other apps either. In some ways I'm happy about this, but in others I'm sure I've missed out on some things.
 

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This WW analysis came up on my YT feed.


Interesting data for the good looking dude.

-> 6 days on the app
-> 2,523 swipes total(420 swipes/ day)
-> 68 chats
…Resulting in 4 dates

pretty crap return on time investment.

‘GigaChad’ needs better Game :rofl:
unless this guy was using a new phone number for the good looking guy's tinder account, the algorithm probably associated his phone number with the uglier dude despite new pics.

so I think the entire "study" is bull****.
 

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unless this guy was using a new phone number for the good looking guy's tinder account, the algorithm probably associated his phone number with the uglier dude despite new pics.

so I think the entire "study" is bull****.
Yeah, that’s a good point. Tinder does everything they can to make sure you can’t “reset” and get a fresh start.
 

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I mean.. 4 dates in 6 days tho. lol.
I’d like to see the 4 women, plus how they looked IRL vs their pics. That’s a lot sunk time in swiping and texting 68 to get 4 out.

Rough guesstimate in time would be 26 hours. Lot of work,

unless this guy was using a new phone number for the good looking guy's tinder account, the algorithm probably associated his phone number with the uglier dude despite new pics.

so I think the entire "study" is bull****.
It’s his friend, some influencer named MensMaxxing.


..who has one hell of a jawline. Woah.

I did OLD heavily for 4 months this year & got 25 dates or so..but it was a TON of matches and work. I had 100+ chats going.
those numbers look real to me.
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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In my view, you take the vast majority of men out there and you put them in a catalog, you will get the exact same things.

1) Men boasting about their money and their job titles
2) Men posting pictures of themselves in order to show their cars, watches, and lifestyle
3) Men clearly telegraphing how badly they want to get laid or be in a relationship
4) Men revealing tons of information about themselves without even getting a date
5) Excessive smiling

To me I look at this and I just think everything about it signals weakness, desperation, low self worth, and lack of mystery. None of these men really have any "edge", they are just copies of each other. Is it no surprise that online dating is horrible?
 

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I’d like to see the 4 women, plus how they looked IRL vs their pics. That’s a lot sunk time in swiping and texting 68 to get 4 out.

Rough guesstimate in time would be 26 hours. Lot of work,



It’s his friend, some influencer named MensMaxxing.


..who has one hell of a jawline. Woah.

I did OLD heavily for 4 months this year & got 25 dates or so..but it was a TON of matches and work. I had 100+ chats going.
those numbers look real to me.
Sheesh. At that level of time investment the person in the video would’ve been better off going to the bar. lol.
 

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Any weak move done well is a strong move.
 
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