Anyone got any takes on this situation ?

[Bingo-Player]

In order to stay in my new country I have to get a partner visa

I dated a few chicks last year none blew me away, but was aware the visa process was very very long winded so it kind of rushed me into making a decision recently and picking a FWB to talk about going through the process with.

Basically if we lock into this Visa process we pretty much have to stay together for the next 2 years for me to be able to get my Permanent Residency ...

Now a lot can happen in 2 years it also costs $10,000 to do the application which is non refundable

So if at any point within that 2 year period we call it quits the visa goes with it

She has said she will do it but wants total commitment from me and wants to be living with me , she's 22 I am 33 so we are at the maximum age gap I would be prepared to entertain. She is about as mature as she can be at 22

But I still often catch signs of immaturity and uncultured behaviour which she can't help because she Is only 22 and still has so much natural maturing to do

Problem is at 33 I am in "find-a-wife" territory and that was a prime goal for when I arrived in this country

I don't think I could Marry this girl yet she's just too young ....

So i'm not sure I have 2 years to spend going through all this potentially breaking up with her and then re entering the market at 35 it would be difficult to find a wife

Not impossible but difficult

The alternative is that I go back into the market and try to find another woman now perhaps more realistically suited to me especially in terms of age

Although again the clock is ticking as I would basically need to find her within the next 12 months and get her to sponsor me for a visa

I mean aside from the obvious issues above to go through this process with someone requires a ridiculously high level of trust

Its an unusual situation and appreciate not many would have been in a similar predicament but do need some POV's beyond my own and Chat GPT'S

 

[pipeman84]

she's 22 I am 33

Problem is at 33 I am in "find-a-wife" territory and that was a prime goal for when I arrived in this country

I don't think I could Marry this girl yet she's just too young ....

Better get yourself a 35yrs old woman then. If she's a single mom, even better.

To read something like this on a seduction forum is as ridiculous as it gets. It's like going on a business forum and reading about a guy complaining that 500k/year is too much money and is looking to do the same work for 50k/year.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I would start by doing a proper risk assessment to decide on the best course of action. First, take the time to reflect on how badly you want to stay in the country. Secondly, consider what you would do if you don’t find anyone willing to go through the partner visa process with you. You also need to assess the likelihood of meeting someone who fits your taste, is open to a serious commitment under a tight timeline, and is willing to accept the uncertainty of your immigration status. Keep in mind that if your documents aren’t in order, deportation remains a real possibility.

The last option is the girl you’re currently with. Anecdotally, one of my ex-girlfriends once did me a huge favor by lending me money for a bereavement-related expense so I could pay off a debt. Unfortunately, I made the mistake of falling back into debt. From that point on, every argument turned into a reminder of how I had used her, how irresponsible I was, and how much she regretted helping me. It became unbearable. The lesson? When a woman does you a big favor like that, especially when it involves money or something deeply personal, she might end up resenting you, or at the very least, use it as a form of control. It completely shifts the power dynamic. In a way, it’s like she’s cutting your balls off.

If I were you, and I admit this sounds harsh, I would stay with the FWB, get your documents sorted, and then break things off if you do not want to be with her. Personally, I couldn’t do that. I know how deep a bond can grow when you go through uncertainty and a bit of struggle together. But maybe you have the stomach for it. I know some Cubans that turned into Casper the ghost for their partner the moment they got their residency in Canada.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Better get yourself a 35yrs old woman then. If she's a single mom, even better.

To read something like this on a seduction forum is as ridiculous as it gets. It's like going on a business forum and reading about a guy complaining that 500k/year is too much money and is looking to do the same work for 50k/year.

Maybe the 22 year old girl is a crossed eye fatty.

 

[ThisIsSparta]

In order to stay in my new country I have to get a partner visa

I dated a few chicks last year none blew me away, but was aware the visa process was very very long winded so it kind of rushed me into making a decision recently and picking a FWB to talk about going through the process with.

Basically if we lock into this Visa process we pretty much have to stay together for the next 2 years for me to be able to get my Permanent Residency ...

Now a lot can happen in 2 years it also costs $10,000 to do the application which is non refundable

So if at any point within that 2 year period we call it quits the visa goes with it

She has said she will do it but wants total commitment from me and wants to be living with me , she's 22 I am 33 so we are at the maximum age gap I would be prepared to entertain. She is about as mature as she can be at 22

But I still often catch signs of immaturity and uncultured behaviour which she can't help because she Is only 22 and still has so much natural maturing to do

Problem is at 33 I am in "find-a-wife" territory and that was a prime goal for when I arrived in this country

I don't think I could Marry this girl yet she's just too young ....

So i'm not sure I have 2 years to spend going through all this potentially breaking up with her and then re entering the market at 35 it would be difficult to find a wife

Not impossible but difficult

The alternative is that I go back into the market and try to find another woman now perhaps more realistically suited to me especially in terms of age

Although again the clock is ticking as I would basically need to find her within the next 12 months and get her to sponsor me for a visa

I mean aside from the obvious issues above to go through this process with someone requires a ridiculously high level of trust

Its an unusual situation and appreciate not many would have been in a similar predicament but do need some POV's beyond my own and Chat GPT'S

Why would you do that? (All of it!)

You do understand that the woman in question will have your balls in her handbag for 2 years and that she will make good use of her personal slave?

Man that **** screams "needy", "dependence" and "submission" like nothing i have ever read on this forum.

 

[DJ Novice]

Don’t do it OP.

You’re basically inviting a woman access to 50% of your wealth in 2 years.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Aren't you in Australia OP? Maybe you can bribe @Scaramouche for 5K (half the fee) to say he's gay for 2 years.

Lolz

I wouldn't try to find a wife for a partner visa though. The circumstances would sabotage your search too much imo and 35 isn't too young to find a wife.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Problem is at 33 I am in "find-a-wife" territory and that was a prime goal for when I arrived in this country

Tantamount to going out to the Navajo reservation, with the goal of promoting sobriety... You've been less than pragmatic from the get-go, hoss

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Billy,
" Aren't you in Australia OP? Maybe you can bribe @Scaramouche for 5K (half the fee) to say he's gay for 2 years." It's all a vicious rumour,Bingo and I are just good friends LOL.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advise against the FWB. That will put a 22 year old girl in control of your future. She already has made demands on you ahead of this and she WILL wield that power over you.

Not good.

If @Scaramouche cannot be convinced to be your partner, (actually not a bad idea) then I think you are ill advised to do this with the 22 year old.

If she gets mad, meets someone else, she will cost you 10K and your visa.

She's not the right candidate for this.