I mean like you get nervous just walking around even if there arent hb's around? I've seen that commercial for Zoloft- for social anxiety disorder. I get really nervous in class and cant even read w/o my voice breaking up.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Anyone ever get really really nrevous?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The TallOne
Don Juan
Sounds like extreme anxiety.
You could try drugs..
Or you could try putting yourself under self-control.
I tried the latter, and it works.
Take deep breaths, relax.. and don't give one **** about what people think of you, let it loose.
You could try drugs..
Or you could try putting yourself under self-control.
I tried the latter, and it works.
Take deep breaths, relax.. and don't give one **** about what people think of you, let it loose.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
Smoke a lot of ciggs like my friend. He always seems like hes on the edge.
The TallOne
Don Juan
As much as the cigarette can calm your nerves..
Its a nasty habit to get into, and hard to get out of.
Just work on it, your nervous due to a fear.
First you gotta identify the fear, cause that will be the cause of your nervousness. After you identify it you will begin to cure it by working on it more and more.
Medication is americas cure for everything. Don't medicate, work on yourself, you can fix any problem you have with the willpower and time.
First you gotta identify the fear, cause that will be the cause of your nervousness. After you identify it you will begin to cure it by working on it more and more.
Medication is americas cure for everything. Don't medicate, work on yourself, you can fix any problem you have with the willpower and time.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
I know...i was joking cause my friend humors me when he does it.
The TallOne
Don Juan
Ah, my apologies.
I generally relate humor on the net, with a smilie.
in my last year of high school, a few hbs came and started talking to me. i got so nervous i started sweating and couldn't think never mind speak straight. it was frightening.
i managed to work on it. alcohol provides the quick fix, but it's not the best way to deal with the problem.
i don't know how bad your situation is, but it is always worth the effort to fix it.
pook said some really great things that stuck with me.
"If you find yourself on the 7th story of a burning building and you jump, your problem is solved. Now you just have to worry about landing." Talking about shy people landing on the ground is fine but we need to get them to jump out of the building in the first place
"As a formerly EXTREMELY shy person, I can say that shyness is NOT a form of insecurity. In other avenues than person, shy people can be extroadinarily confidant.
It is entirely possible to be confident but be introverted.
It is also possible to be insecure but be extroverted.
No, shyness is thinking that EVERYONE IS LOOKING AT YOU. It is a form of junior high school following you. If you get up from your seat, people will look at you. You speak up, people look at you. And so on. This means you will less likely speak, less likely get up, and since everytime you do you think you walk on a stage and everyone will notice you.
What shy people need to realize is that you could walk in front of a bus, get *thwumped!*, and no one would really notice. No one is going to care what you do or who you are. You are not a celebrity. You do not have cameras pointing at you. You are not important. You are nothing."
from pooks replies in
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001052.html
ok, like i said i don't know how bad your situation is, but it's worth considering these points.
another thing. how do you carry yourself when you're out in public? what's your body language like? if you go about with a frown on your face, shoulders hunched, head down, arms folded and a walk that almost counts as a run, how do you think you'll feel? like shyt; worthless. if you go about with shoulders back (in a straight line), a neutral expression on your face to a smirk/smile, a slow, smooth pace and back arched, how are you going to feel? even if you think you feel like shyt to begin with, this will soon change as your body language says "i'm worth a milion bucks".
and one last thing, you get nervous speaking in class? who doesn't if they haven't done it much. you can try not to give a shyt and put in minimal effort so that it appears like you aren't flustered and not trying much, which works well. or you can say to yourself that you aren't nervous; instead you're excited and you're getting a very valuable adrenaline rush that people pay money for when they go on rollercoasters.
i managed to work on it. alcohol provides the quick fix, but it's not the best way to deal with the problem.
i don't know how bad your situation is, but it is always worth the effort to fix it.
pook said some really great things that stuck with me.
"If you find yourself on the 7th story of a burning building and you jump, your problem is solved. Now you just have to worry about landing." Talking about shy people landing on the ground is fine but we need to get them to jump out of the building in the first place
"As a formerly EXTREMELY shy person, I can say that shyness is NOT a form of insecurity. In other avenues than person, shy people can be extroadinarily confidant.
It is entirely possible to be confident but be introverted.
It is also possible to be insecure but be extroverted.
No, shyness is thinking that EVERYONE IS LOOKING AT YOU. It is a form of junior high school following you. If you get up from your seat, people will look at you. You speak up, people look at you. And so on. This means you will less likely speak, less likely get up, and since everytime you do you think you walk on a stage and everyone will notice you.
What shy people need to realize is that you could walk in front of a bus, get *thwumped!*, and no one would really notice. No one is going to care what you do or who you are. You are not a celebrity. You do not have cameras pointing at you. You are not important. You are nothing."
from pooks replies in
http://www.sosuave.com/ubb/Forum6/HTML/001052.html
ok, like i said i don't know how bad your situation is, but it's worth considering these points.
another thing. how do you carry yourself when you're out in public? what's your body language like? if you go about with a frown on your face, shoulders hunched, head down, arms folded and a walk that almost counts as a run, how do you think you'll feel? like shyt; worthless. if you go about with shoulders back (in a straight line), a neutral expression on your face to a smirk/smile, a slow, smooth pace and back arched, how are you going to feel? even if you think you feel like shyt to begin with, this will soon change as your body language says "i'm worth a milion bucks".
and one last thing, you get nervous speaking in class? who doesn't if they haven't done it much. you can try not to give a shyt and put in minimal effort so that it appears like you aren't flustered and not trying much, which works well. or you can say to yourself that you aren't nervous; instead you're excited and you're getting a very valuable adrenaline rush that people pay money for when they go on rollercoasters.
The TallOne
Don Juan
You need to learn self-control.
FORCE yourself to take your hands out of your pockets.
FORCE yourself to raise your head up.
FORCE yourself to keep your shoulders raised.
We cannot force you to do anything, it needs to come from within.
Self-control is probably one of the biggest obstacles anybody will ever have.
If you can control yourself, you can do alot of awesome things.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Man at the beginning of the summer I had the perfect job-I worked at our town's Regal movie theater but like a dumba** I quit. It was perfect - hb's everywhere. Now I'm trying to get a job at Blockbuster, does anyone know how old you have to be to work there?
Beatflux
Don Juan
I had the same problem as you, except worse. I was nervious pretty much throughout the whole school day which was very draining. I didn't want to do drugs or therapy. Drug have unforeseen consequences and therapy is not guarenteed. I meditated with Holosync for a while and it eventually subsided. I've started doing Qigong and it makes you feel real peaceful. FYI: Spring Forest Qigong costs 99 for the beginner level and Holosync cost 159. Both are definately worth the money.
Questions? PM me.
Questions? PM me.
oakraiderz2
Master Don Juan
The ripe age of 17.
FreeStyleZ
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you should probably visit the forums at www.socialanxietysupport.com i had SA when i was in 10th grade, seems like a thing of the past now.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.