You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Do I sense another disbeliever?DJVladdy said:Did she also hang out with strippers while growing up, mr dong?
P.S.DJVladdy said:Did she also hang out with strippers while growing up, mr dong?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Going for 'most irony in a two word post of the year'?PrinceBeavis said:^ pure ignorance.
WTF? They are not religious? How long have you or anyone else lived in the region? There is only one other guy I know of (besides me) who has a place in the former Soviet Union and he doesn't post (he just laughs at you guys).Dongfu said:Just hooked up with one a couple days ago. Great in bed, fun, very straight up. No expectations, no pressure. I'm considering dating her, and that is saying alot for me. Maybe I just found a good one. I'll also note that she said she doesnt identify with russians, and has no more russian friends.
Also important. Russian women are not religious, so no hang ups about sex. You can be very straight forward.
Wow, forgive me bro. I was always lead to believe that Russia, mostly due to communism, was not a religious country. I know communism is over, so I guess the religious people are there. The girl I date is not religious, that's all I know. And she's nothing like an American girl.meitenesrigas said:WTF? They are not religious? How long have you or anyone else lived in the region? There is only one other guy I know of (besides me) who has a place in the former Soviet Union and he doesn't post (he just laughs at you guys).
Everything on here is dealing with AMERICANS. Not people from the former Soviet Union. That would require you guys to do something other than watch reruns of "Entourage" all day. What a group of ignorant fools.
http://video.mail.ru/mail/madeinrussia_tv/madeinrussia/49.html
Muslims are very common in the Former Soviet Union. I won't even get into the whole Chechen thing. Those broads blow themselves up for their God. Not too religious...eh?![]()
Orthodox Church is VERY important throughout most of the region. Lithuanians and some Latvians, on the other hand, are VERY Catholic. Some Ukraines are also Eastern Catholics.
I won't even get into all the Jesus Freaks and Mormons I see every single day running around. My town is in the process of building a Mormon (LDS) Temple. There is even a Black African dude in Kyiv who is an Evangelical who has thousands of members in his Church. Hell, this place is getting to be more and more like the Deep South or Texas. The mayor of Kyiv is also a devout Evangelical.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=iLueOHnAMuM
America or Ukraine??? You boys have lots to learn.
Pretty much everything you guys say about the girls is TOTALLY WRONG. This is really funny from over here.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I lol'dselfmademob said:In Soviet Russia, the girl dates you!
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This coming from a boy who writes posts referring himself as a "Nigga". Keep on making up the stories.mongolboy said:OMG RUSSIAN GIRLS LOL! when i lived in russia i remember this one time this girl one of my friends friendcame up to me when she was drunk started hittin on me HARDCORE at the end she was like have you ever had sex i was like no, she was like want me to SHOW YOU! i didnt cuz i was such a lil ***** and im not a desperate lil ***** either too so just cuz i was young and was not certain
BUT RUSSIAN GIRLS ARE CRAZY !!! LOL
It's events like this that will get your inner game tight. You can look back and make a decision right now to never let an opportunity like that get away again.mongolboy said:OMG RUSSIAN GIRLS LOL! when i lived in russia i remember this one time this girl one of my friends friendcame up to me when she was drunk started hittin on me HARDCORE at the end she was like have you ever had sex i was like no, she was like want me to SHOW YOU! i didnt cuz i was such a lil ***** and im not a desperate lil ***** either too so just cuz i was young and was not certain
BUT RUSSIAN GIRLS ARE CRAZY !!! LOL
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.