"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Anyone else really picky about looks?

nilescrane

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 4, 2009
Messages
40
Reaction score
3
I have a particular type I like for dating/relationships both looks and personality wise and don't budge one bit. For just sex/friendship/dating though, it's more about pure sexual attraction and the girl not being a b*tch and tolerable to be around. I still find myself, due to a combination of bad location and my own pickiness, only sexually drawn to a small percentage of women.

For one, I'm only attracted to white women. I don't care blonde/brunette/redhead for sex (for dating I like the brunette/artsy/classy type.) But I seem to have a very particular look I go for even for sex. I like the natural beauty look. Of course, every woman wears some makeup and puts effort into her wardrobe, but I don't like the women you see at porn or the typical club wh*re. I like women like Heather Graham, Robin Tunney (from The Mentalist), Rachel Weisz...women that look like even if they weren't wearing any makeup and put on jogging pants and a t-shirt, they'd still look better than the girl with the fake tan and make-up.

The idea of having sex with a "regular girl" (unless I was in love with her and she was hot to me) isn't an option for me.

Anyone else this picky, even about just sex?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

Read more...

nilescrane

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 4, 2009
Messages
40
Reaction score
3
A better question is, if you're insistent on a particular type, and while you would have an LTR if the girl had the personality to match, you're mainly just looking for quick seduction not in bars and clubs, where are places to look if don't live in LA, Texas, Florida, etc.? Where have you small-town DJs had luck meeting 8-10s?
 

katatonia

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 26, 2009
Messages
256
Reaction score
6
Same here for me. I can't imagine having sex with a girl I don't find very attractive, it's just such a major turn off if she's not hot.
 

Scion

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 2, 2009
Messages
566
Reaction score
7
I don't really care for any specifics (ie, certain hair color, certain eye, certain skin tone) but I am picky in that she needs to be in shape (mainly because I work hard to stay in the shape I'm in and I expect it from other ppl). Now that being said I do like 2 certain things (not deal breakers though). I like green eyes (don't know why) and I like small petite girls (like 5'5" 100 lbs size frame).

But beautiful women come in tons of variety.
 

lukester19

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 5, 2009
Messages
13
Reaction score
0
Yes I also like petit girls. I have tried non petit girls and it does not work. I am 6'3 and i thought it would be tougher to get these girls but i was wrong. I do hate it when you got a image in your head and always go after that. It barely show room for improvement with meeting other girls that are not in my image.

Lol i have been abstaining from masturbation and am ready for a girlfriend again. Hopefully I can go out on the prowl again.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

Top