"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Anybody know how to meditate ?

GenK

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I'v been meditating for the past 1 week, but i'm not sure if im doing the right thing. I usually sit somewhere quiet, stretch a bit and the sit down cross legged with my spine straight. I try to concentrate ONLY on my breathing, and keep it that way. I usually set up a timer for 6 minutes. Am i doing it correct ? :p
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Leporello

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6 minutes isn't enough. Shoot for 12 or 15 at first. It's hard to sit still for even that amount of time, but do your best.

Also, meditate at least twice a day - before breakfast and before dinner.
 

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Meditation and prayer are the same thing, at least physiologically, but those two groups of people tend to hate each other, so no one ever talks about their similarities.

Regardless of what you call it, it's a good way to not forget anything before you leave your house. Before you walk out the door, stop and clear your mind for a moment, and anything you have forgotten will hit you instantly. It works like magic.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Also look into standing and walking meditation, have been good for me. Standing meditation contains Tai Chi and martial arts elements. Great for posture and a form of exercise to boot. Walking meditation is also great. There are many free resources on the net and pdfs out there to google. Have always been of the opinion that people who aren't aspiring monks should try to blend meditation into their daily activities and exercise rather than traditional sitting zazen. And hey, if you can burn a calorie or two and do a bit of training with the same benefit as sitting, why sit?

Here's a start:

http://www.quiettigertaichi.com/2012/05/10/standing-meditation/

http://www.wildmind.org/walking/introduction
 
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