"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Anybody know how to meditate ?

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I'v been meditating for the past 1 week, but i'm not sure if im doing the right thing. I usually sit somewhere quiet, stretch a bit and the sit down cross legged with my spine straight. I try to concentrate ONLY on my breathing, and keep it that way. I usually set up a timer for 6 minutes. Am i doing it correct ? :p
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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6 minutes isn't enough. Shoot for 12 or 15 at first. It's hard to sit still for even that amount of time, but do your best.

Also, meditate at least twice a day - before breakfast and before dinner.
 

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Meditation and prayer are the same thing, at least physiologically, but those two groups of people tend to hate each other, so no one ever talks about their similarities.

Regardless of what you call it, it's a good way to not forget anything before you leave your house. Before you walk out the door, stop and clear your mind for a moment, and anything you have forgotten will hit you instantly. It works like magic.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Also look into standing and walking meditation, have been good for me. Standing meditation contains Tai Chi and martial arts elements. Great for posture and a form of exercise to boot. Walking meditation is also great. There are many free resources on the net and pdfs out there to google. Have always been of the opinion that people who aren't aspiring monks should try to blend meditation into their daily activities and exercise rather than traditional sitting zazen. And hey, if you can burn a calorie or two and do a bit of training with the same benefit as sitting, why sit?

Here's a start:

http://www.quiettigertaichi.com/2012/05/10/standing-meditation/

http://www.wildmind.org/walking/introduction
 
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