Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Anybody know how to meditate ?

GenK

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I'v been meditating for the past 1 week, but i'm not sure if im doing the right thing. I usually sit somewhere quiet, stretch a bit and the sit down cross legged with my spine straight. I try to concentrate ONLY on my breathing, and keep it that way. I usually set up a timer for 6 minutes. Am i doing it correct ? :p
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Leporello

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6 minutes isn't enough. Shoot for 12 or 15 at first. It's hard to sit still for even that amount of time, but do your best.

Also, meditate at least twice a day - before breakfast and before dinner.
 

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Meditation and prayer are the same thing, at least physiologically, but those two groups of people tend to hate each other, so no one ever talks about their similarities.

Regardless of what you call it, it's a good way to not forget anything before you leave your house. Before you walk out the door, stop and clear your mind for a moment, and anything you have forgotten will hit you instantly. It works like magic.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Also look into standing and walking meditation, have been good for me. Standing meditation contains Tai Chi and martial arts elements. Great for posture and a form of exercise to boot. Walking meditation is also great. There are many free resources on the net and pdfs out there to google. Have always been of the opinion that people who aren't aspiring monks should try to blend meditation into their daily activities and exercise rather than traditional sitting zazen. And hey, if you can burn a calorie or two and do a bit of training with the same benefit as sitting, why sit?

Here's a start:

http://www.quiettigertaichi.com/2012/05/10/standing-meditation/

http://www.wildmind.org/walking/introduction
 
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