"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Any words to make me feel better?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I got a few words to make you feel better man the f uck up. You gotta be the biggest p ussy I ever met my whole life. I can't be wrong either if she left you. Someone leaves you they should be the last thing on your mind or at all. It seems like you have no life if your mind is revolves around her. If I were you I would focus on other things in my life right now.
 

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Birdem said:
I got a few words to make you feel better man the f uck up. You gotta be the biggest p ussy I ever met my whole life. I can't be wrong either if she left you. Someone leaves you they should be the last thing on your mind or at all. It seems like you have no life if your mind is revolves around her. If I were you I would focus on other things in my life right now.
lol sorry bro but you sound like unexperienced arrogant . I might be wrong .

A man who have experienced relationship would say different things because im sure that he have had been in this guys shoes before . She's alredy part of your life .

Its not that easy to forgot completely about a girlfriend that you have been with for more than e year .

Peace:up:
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ya birdem...probably the worst advice ever frmo someone who has never been in a serious relationship. everyone else seems able to sympathize.

but uh...basically man it isnt the end of the world, a few months you will look back on this like it was nothing, just hang out with your friends as much as you possibly can and meet new people to forget about the older ones. it will be hard to adjust but once you do it will be easy man you'll see.

and like...who dumps someone over facebook anyways? she sounds like a loser
 

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I don't care about girls that aren't with me anymore who are they to control my feelings. Let me be more nice, I think you should relax on your couch listen to some Lionel Richie and Brain Mcknight. After your done bumping Lionel Richie and Brain Mcknight you should then write her a letter how much it was your fault not hers. How stupid can a person be to ask for sympathy on a forum of people he never met. It may be painful for you, but come on.
 

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I have not had a girlfriend in almost ten years. If that doesn't make you feel any beter, then I don't know what will.
 

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You should be glad that its over. She obviously has no class if she broke up with you over face book. Thats pretty weak.
 

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brett012 said:
^that depends if you are miserable
Haha. I guess it depends on the season.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Daddy The Pimp said:
Lol i hope your kidding .
Dead serious. I've been on dates but nothing ever materialized into a serious relationship. Plus, I took lengthy breaks to try to "find myself" when I should have just kept searching. It's okay to take a break from women but you don't want to go overboard. If the OP doesn't get over his ex, then he just might find himself in the same boat.
 

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Thanks guys, doing better.

And birdem, come on, you don't think a guy has any excuse for feeling a bit down after breaking up with a girl that was not only his first girlfriend but who he dated for 3 years, most of which were pretty good?

Sure if you're ice cold you won't get hurt, but you're going to miss out on a lot too.
 

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sexy_kuta said:
like that homie once said, "if you love something let it go, if it comes back its yours, if it doesnt, it never was"
That wasn't some homie, that was the poster in the school office, when I'd get sent to the Principal for causing trouble. :cool:
 

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SmoothTalker said:
I just got dumped by a girlfriend of almost 3 years, over facebook.

We had our problems but still, I loved her guys. This is my first breakup and I'm feeling like total ****.

Any wise words to help lift this feeling?
time heals all wounds. move on. loose yourself in some other girls. don't dwell.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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