You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I'm not saying fight back, but don't simply let them walk over you. I used to have a acne, and used to get called out for it. So I just started doing what I mentioned, and they backed off.antidonjuan said:I disagree with vivalarebellion, if you fight back, you lose gound and you will eventually get into a stupid battle. Instead of arguing, just simply ignore them and that will make them look stupid. If you fight back, you will eventually become just like them.
? I'd say react the same.antidonjuan said:Yea you are right, it sometimes works out like you are the man and tries to stand up for yourself!
So vivalerbellion, when anyone make those jokes to me in front of GIRLS, how should I react?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.