Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
LMAO! I'm a server at a fairly upscale place. When it's busy, the money is great. I have to agree about most of the female servers. We have one of those where I work. She has tantrums constantly and has grown accustomed to getting her way in doing so...so she keeps getting worse. One day I asked her if she is naturally a biotch or if she works at it. She stomped off, lol.Originally posted by Shiftkey
Been a server for over a year (2 if you count hosting). Relatively fun job, and good money. But the drama queen female servers will give you a headache and retarded customers will stress you out. Also be prepared to notice all the bad things your friends and family do in restaurants that you didn't realize was bad before (IE asking for a table other than the one the host gives you, or deciding what to order while making your server stand there waiting - that's why we're called SERVERS and not waiters).
WYLDFIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Originally posted by Wyldfire
LMAO! I'm a server at a fairly upscale place. When it's busy, the money is great. I have to agree about most of the female servers. We have one of those where I work. She has tantrums constantly and has grown accustomed to getting her way in doing so...so she keeps getting worse. One day I asked her if she is naturally a biotch or if she works at it. She stomped off, lol.
Asking for another table, being very "needy", tipping like crap, being really messy, tying up the table for two hours to nurse a cup of chowder and water with lemon...those diners SUCK.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Hey MsThang! I said hi to you on that gel thread. How you been?Originally posted by MsThang
WYLDFIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I miss you!