You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
LMAO! I'm a server at a fairly upscale place. When it's busy, the money is great. I have to agree about most of the female servers. We have one of those where I work. She has tantrums constantly and has grown accustomed to getting her way in doing so...so she keeps getting worse. One day I asked her if she is naturally a biotch or if she works at it. She stomped off, lol.Originally posted by Shiftkey
Been a server for over a year (2 if you count hosting). Relatively fun job, and good money. But the drama queen female servers will give you a headache and retarded customers will stress you out. Also be prepared to notice all the bad things your friends and family do in restaurants that you didn't realize was bad before (IE asking for a table other than the one the host gives you, or deciding what to order while making your server stand there waiting - that's why we're called SERVERS and not waiters).
WYLDFIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Originally posted by Wyldfire
LMAO! I'm a server at a fairly upscale place. When it's busy, the money is great. I have to agree about most of the female servers. We have one of those where I work. She has tantrums constantly and has grown accustomed to getting her way in doing so...so she keeps getting worse. One day I asked her if she is naturally a biotch or if she works at it. She stomped off, lol.
Asking for another table, being very "needy", tipping like crap, being really messy, tying up the table for two hours to nurse a cup of chowder and water with lemon...those diners SUCK.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Hey MsThang! I said hi to you on that gel thread. How you been?Originally posted by MsThang
WYLDFIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I miss you!