You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
LMAO! I'm a server at a fairly upscale place. When it's busy, the money is great. I have to agree about most of the female servers. We have one of those where I work. She has tantrums constantly and has grown accustomed to getting her way in doing so...so she keeps getting worse. One day I asked her if she is naturally a biotch or if she works at it. She stomped off, lol.Originally posted by Shiftkey
Been a server for over a year (2 if you count hosting). Relatively fun job, and good money. But the drama queen female servers will give you a headache and retarded customers will stress you out. Also be prepared to notice all the bad things your friends and family do in restaurants that you didn't realize was bad before (IE asking for a table other than the one the host gives you, or deciding what to order while making your server stand there waiting - that's why we're called SERVERS and not waiters).
WYLDFIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Originally posted by Wyldfire
LMAO! I'm a server at a fairly upscale place. When it's busy, the money is great. I have to agree about most of the female servers. We have one of those where I work. She has tantrums constantly and has grown accustomed to getting her way in doing so...so she keeps getting worse. One day I asked her if she is naturally a biotch or if she works at it. She stomped off, lol.
Asking for another table, being very "needy", tipping like crap, being really messy, tying up the table for two hours to nurse a cup of chowder and water with lemon...those diners SUCK.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hey MsThang! I said hi to you on that gel thread. How you been?Originally posted by MsThang
WYLDFIRE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I miss you!