"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Any tips for this situation?

rsxy

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Alright, heres the setup:

I went out with this girl about 4 months ago maybe 6 or 7 times over a couple months. In my opinion at the time it was just dating, but she wanted something more serious and I didnt really. I didnt handle it as I should have...... I didnt really handle it at all. I just stopped calling her or returning her calls. After about a week of calling she stopped.

Heres the situation now:

My priorities are a little different. I just got elected to the Students Union at my University and a solid GF would fit with my life a little bit better than casual dating as I wanted before. This girl would make a fantastic GF, but I really didnt keep a friendship with her. Just kinda blew her off. Is there a way to call her and reestablish something? If so, what is the best approach to take in order to get back on the good side?

Thanks for the input!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fenderules

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well how did you blow her off?

and i dunno maby......call her????????? so long as you did not totally be an ass 2 her.
 

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I just stopped talking to her one day. I think I went out of town for the weekend and I just never called her or answered her calls when I returned. I didnt say anything mean to her, I just kind of "disappeared"..... I really dont even know why I did, I just wasnt really in a GF state of mind and thought it would be easier than dealing with it.
 

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ok, then call her. simple as that. I'v done that 2 a couple chicks. one i havent had contact with for a couple months minus 1 e-mail that said i was super busy. If i feel like it might giver her a call and maby go have some fun if i dont get another girl to fill the space when i feel like it.
 

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What would you suggest saying if I call her? Should I give some sort of explanation, of just act completely normal and see if she brings it up?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No explinations, it'd be more natural, just to "bump" into her and start things up again. But don't be suprised if things don't go swimmingly.

-Grey Fox
 
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