B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Please no move on/next her replies.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Any successful stories of escaping the friend zone after initial attraction?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
niceguytoalphamale
Master Don Juan
@B0redandl0nely no not really good luck.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
That means fvcking them.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Unfortunately, she approached me today after class with her friend and I was socially awkward. I was outside smoking a cigarette and she asked why I started smoking again cause I had told her I had quit. I said "I just felt like having one." Her friend asked if I was waiting for someone and I said "I'm just chillin." Not much was said and they just walked away. I think I should have walked with them to show her that I can be upbeat and social but I didn't.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Ignore. Get to fvcking other bishes. You have no swag with them. And wont earn it from them. Get it from the new chicks.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I've been getting other girl's numbers but I really want to fvck this exotic African chick (my first time with a black girl). I'm debating whether I should ask her to "hang out" this weekend or wait until I see her at the next class (Tuesday). On Tuesday, I'm doing a presentation that I'm planning on doing very well on so it'll give me a nice confidence boost.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Any opinions? If you're opinion is neither, please don't reply
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Fvck the new chycks. You need ones who are into you. Dont use alot of energy to pursue them. Chycks should want to be around you. Your sexual confidence and thus swag will rise. Be social. Be aware of whose feeling you.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I understand that. I really do. And I'm striving towards that. But I proposed two courses of action to take and my question is, if you had to pick one, which would it be?
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Whichever one is feeling you the most. You cant worry about race. Worry about the puzzy that desires you.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
I totally get where you're coming from but all I'm asking is, given the circumstances, would hitting this particular chick up be worth it?
RickTheToad
Moderator
IF you put some time between you and her, like months and work on yourself, it could happen. I've seen it before. It's rare though.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
So you're saying further pursuit at this point is counter productive?
RickTheToad
Moderator
Yes. Back off and work on yourself. Chasing never works... NEVER.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Ever hear of confident persistence? Isn't that a DJ concept?
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
RickTheToad
Moderator
Dude. No disrespect, but you are not there yet. Work on your self respect, health, clothes, hobbies, and purpose. There's always another one. Never chase. It's either there or it isn't. Happens to all men.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Ugh you're not telling me what I wanna hear. Now I'm just gonna obsess on how I fvcked this up. What do you mean by self respect? Health, well I'm in decent shape even though I smoke. Hobbies? Purpose I think I'm pretty good on cause I'm in the process of earning my degree. I'm still looking for a job, I just have to focus on finals right now
RickTheToad
Moderator
Dude, we all have to take our medicine. We are a community and tell it straight even if the poster doesn't want to hear it. It's happened to me as well. It's part of the game.
Smoking is bad for you, so quit it. Work on your purpose in life. Start a side hustle. Make yourself stand out infront of the other 10 million people in New York City. Be different and in time, the ladies will follow. One thing, always, never chase a lady. All that does is push her more and more away from you. Ever see two magnets? You know when turn over the same sides, but the magnetic energy pushes each magnet away? Well, that's a dude chasing a lady. Don't do it. Let her (whomever she is) come after you.
B0redandl0nely
Senior Don Juan
Well I need to become alpha overnight then. I need to be a new man on Tuesday. Giving her a call this weekend is chasing right? Cause I don't think it's likely I'll see her months down the road. If only I'd a just made out with her when she wanted to in the restaurant...
GrowingPains
Master Don Juan
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You just can't let it go can you...
Go to therapy.
Go to therapy.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.