Jesse Pinkman
Master Don Juan
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What kind of pet do you all own?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Same here. I'm convinced that taking care of a pet requires an amount of effort that's almost no less than that of taking care of a human child.I can barely take care of myself and would probably kill a houseplant.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I can't help but think those plants don't respond too well to vicious barking.I've had my current pit bull for 8 years. Just got into house plants. After 4.5 months, 4 of the 10 plants are dead. The dog is still happy and well.
This is a reason why I do not own a pet. I do not wish to make the effort that is involved in pet ownership.I'm convinced that taking care of a pet requires an amount of effort that's almost no less than that of taking care of a human child.
Somehow that made me sad. Over the years, cats have just grown on me.A German Shepherd Dog, which came from being dumped at a county pound, there are lots of purebreds in shelters. And two outdoor cats that were each thrown out the window of a moving car as kittens, in separate instances. People throw away some good stuff.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

It's horrendous the way some people treat animals...........lots of purebreds in shelters. And two outdoor cats that were each thrown out the window of a moving car as kittens, in separate instances. People throw away some good stuff.
Did you take these photos? they are fantastic, beautiful dogs2 dogs
Staffordshire Bull Terrier -x- Labrador mix breed.
Labrador sized, with the colouring and build of a Bull Terrier.
Stig
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And a blue-grey Staffordshire
Mia
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thanks! - Yes I took the photos....Did you take these photos? they are fantastic, beautiful dogs