"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So, i wrote a status on facebook saying stuff about th "perfect girl" and the girl i was actually referring to messaged me saying "who's your 'perfect girl' then;)xx"

she kept asking me and i was dwindling on the subject, so i made her try to guess. She didn't have any idea so i wrote "Aww, you really got no clue have you? i'm not gonna say anymore then :L xx"

Was this the right thing to do? it feels so
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I am not a fully developed Don Juan or anything, but the whole idea of writing about 'the perfect girl' on facebook, seems sorta needy and nice guyish. What you should do is tease her all the time and escalate the 'sexual' instead of the romantical. Refuse to believe that the girl you're trying to score is sensible and virtous, treat her like she isn't any of that.
 

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@AN I thought so too but then again she like the nice guys (romantic stuff) and she's not a big fan of sexual stuff, either way i tease her and have a laugh with her :)

@NorwegianDJ i swear to god i will if she'd actually come out with me, i'm not one of those guys who's afraid to take risks :p
 

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DubstepGuy said:
@AN I thought so too but then again she like the nice guys (romantic stuff) and she's not a big fan of sexual stuff, either way i tease her and have a laugh with her :)

@NorwegianDJ i swear to god i will if she'd actually come out with me, i'm not one of those guys who's afraid to take risks :p
Then Im sure you'd have no problem taking her aside and isolating her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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It's not that, she lives 3 houses away from me.. she says she'll come out but either forgets or reschedules and flakes :/
 

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DubstepGuy said:
It's not that, she lives 3 houses away from me.. she says she'll come out but either forgets or reschedules and flakes :/
Low interest.
 

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She lives 3 houses away from you? Give her a spur of the moment text "hey come outside and hangout Im in front of your house!" one night and go from there. If she wont even sneak out of her house for one night then her IL is low
 

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@Espi Thanks, when we first met i noticed she had low self esteem so i only complimented her when she said something like 'i'm ugly', and she'd argue against whatever i'd say :s

@DJ Bax Thats actually what i did the first time we met, it was about 3 am and we ended up just talking and stuff under a blanket until 6:30 am :D
 

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DubstepGuy said:
@Espi Thanks, when we first met i noticed she had low self esteem so i only complimented her when she said something like 'i'm ugly', and she'd argue against whatever i'd say :s

@DJ Bax Thats actually what i did the first time we met, it was about 3 am and we ended up just talking and stuff under a blanket until 6:30 am :D
AFC behavior...

I never rise to compliment-provokers like "im ugly." I compliment girls on my own terms. If a girl said "I'm ugly." I'd reply, "Yup."

And second, WHY U NO MAKE MOVE??? Under a blanket for 3.5 hours??? BRO.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LMAO, i took it easy the first night and hug closed. the second night we did the same but inside and we were doing more kino, and i kiss closed :)
 

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That actually makes sense to me xD i'm gonna stop being AFC now and let her do what she wants. I'm thinking of starting approaches for the first time (i'm not nervous about that stuff, just never tried it :L) if she gets jealous, then i suppose i'll try again with her but if not, i'll just leave it :)
 

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I'm thinking of starting approaches for the first time (i'm not nervous about that stuff, just never tried it :L)
You're up for a surprise, good sir.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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