"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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So, i wrote a status on facebook saying stuff about th "perfect girl" and the girl i was actually referring to messaged me saying "who's your 'perfect girl' then;)xx"

she kept asking me and i was dwindling on the subject, so i made her try to guess. She didn't have any idea so i wrote "Aww, you really got no clue have you? i'm not gonna say anymore then :L xx"

Was this the right thing to do? it feels so
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I am not a fully developed Don Juan or anything, but the whole idea of writing about 'the perfect girl' on facebook, seems sorta needy and nice guyish. What you should do is tease her all the time and escalate the 'sexual' instead of the romantical. Refuse to believe that the girl you're trying to score is sensible and virtous, treat her like she isn't any of that.
 

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@AN I thought so too but then again she like the nice guys (romantic stuff) and she's not a big fan of sexual stuff, either way i tease her and have a laugh with her :)

@NorwegianDJ i swear to god i will if she'd actually come out with me, i'm not one of those guys who's afraid to take risks :p
 

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DubstepGuy said:
@AN I thought so too but then again she like the nice guys (romantic stuff) and she's not a big fan of sexual stuff, either way i tease her and have a laugh with her :)

@NorwegianDJ i swear to god i will if she'd actually come out with me, i'm not one of those guys who's afraid to take risks :p
Then Im sure you'd have no problem taking her aside and isolating her.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It's not that, she lives 3 houses away from me.. she says she'll come out but either forgets or reschedules and flakes :/
 

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DubstepGuy said:
It's not that, she lives 3 houses away from me.. she says she'll come out but either forgets or reschedules and flakes :/
Low interest.
 

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She lives 3 houses away from you? Give her a spur of the moment text "hey come outside and hangout Im in front of your house!" one night and go from there. If she wont even sneak out of her house for one night then her IL is low
 

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@Espi Thanks, when we first met i noticed she had low self esteem so i only complimented her when she said something like 'i'm ugly', and she'd argue against whatever i'd say :s

@DJ Bax Thats actually what i did the first time we met, it was about 3 am and we ended up just talking and stuff under a blanket until 6:30 am :D
 

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DubstepGuy said:
@Espi Thanks, when we first met i noticed she had low self esteem so i only complimented her when she said something like 'i'm ugly', and she'd argue against whatever i'd say :s

@DJ Bax Thats actually what i did the first time we met, it was about 3 am and we ended up just talking and stuff under a blanket until 6:30 am :D
AFC behavior...

I never rise to compliment-provokers like "im ugly." I compliment girls on my own terms. If a girl said "I'm ugly." I'd reply, "Yup."

And second, WHY U NO MAKE MOVE??? Under a blanket for 3.5 hours??? BRO.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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LMAO, i took it easy the first night and hug closed. the second night we did the same but inside and we were doing more kino, and i kiss closed :)
 

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That actually makes sense to me xD i'm gonna stop being AFC now and let her do what she wants. I'm thinking of starting approaches for the first time (i'm not nervous about that stuff, just never tried it :L) if she gets jealous, then i suppose i'll try again with her but if not, i'll just leave it :)
 

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I'm thinking of starting approaches for the first time (i'm not nervous about that stuff, just never tried it :L)
You're up for a surprise, good sir.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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