"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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So, i wrote a status on facebook saying stuff about th "perfect girl" and the girl i was actually referring to messaged me saying "who's your 'perfect girl' then;)xx"

she kept asking me and i was dwindling on the subject, so i made her try to guess. She didn't have any idea so i wrote "Aww, you really got no clue have you? i'm not gonna say anymore then :L xx"

Was this the right thing to do? it feels so
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I am not a fully developed Don Juan or anything, but the whole idea of writing about 'the perfect girl' on facebook, seems sorta needy and nice guyish. What you should do is tease her all the time and escalate the 'sexual' instead of the romantical. Refuse to believe that the girl you're trying to score is sensible and virtous, treat her like she isn't any of that.
 

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@AN I thought so too but then again she like the nice guys (romantic stuff) and she's not a big fan of sexual stuff, either way i tease her and have a laugh with her :)

@NorwegianDJ i swear to god i will if she'd actually come out with me, i'm not one of those guys who's afraid to take risks :p
 

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DubstepGuy said:
@AN I thought so too but then again she like the nice guys (romantic stuff) and she's not a big fan of sexual stuff, either way i tease her and have a laugh with her :)

@NorwegianDJ i swear to god i will if she'd actually come out with me, i'm not one of those guys who's afraid to take risks :p
Then Im sure you'd have no problem taking her aside and isolating her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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It's not that, she lives 3 houses away from me.. she says she'll come out but either forgets or reschedules and flakes :/
 

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DubstepGuy said:
It's not that, she lives 3 houses away from me.. she says she'll come out but either forgets or reschedules and flakes :/
Low interest.
 

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She lives 3 houses away from you? Give her a spur of the moment text "hey come outside and hangout Im in front of your house!" one night and go from there. If she wont even sneak out of her house for one night then her IL is low
 

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@Espi Thanks, when we first met i noticed she had low self esteem so i only complimented her when she said something like 'i'm ugly', and she'd argue against whatever i'd say :s

@DJ Bax Thats actually what i did the first time we met, it was about 3 am and we ended up just talking and stuff under a blanket until 6:30 am :D
 

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DubstepGuy said:
@Espi Thanks, when we first met i noticed she had low self esteem so i only complimented her when she said something like 'i'm ugly', and she'd argue against whatever i'd say :s

@DJ Bax Thats actually what i did the first time we met, it was about 3 am and we ended up just talking and stuff under a blanket until 6:30 am :D
AFC behavior...

I never rise to compliment-provokers like "im ugly." I compliment girls on my own terms. If a girl said "I'm ugly." I'd reply, "Yup."

And second, WHY U NO MAKE MOVE??? Under a blanket for 3.5 hours??? BRO.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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LMAO, i took it easy the first night and hug closed. the second night we did the same but inside and we were doing more kino, and i kiss closed :)
 

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That actually makes sense to me xD i'm gonna stop being AFC now and let her do what she wants. I'm thinking of starting approaches for the first time (i'm not nervous about that stuff, just never tried it :L) if she gets jealous, then i suppose i'll try again with her but if not, i'll just leave it :)
 

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I'm thinking of starting approaches for the first time (i'm not nervous about that stuff, just never tried it :L)
You're up for a surprise, good sir.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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