"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So, i wrote a status on facebook saying stuff about th "perfect girl" and the girl i was actually referring to messaged me saying "who's your 'perfect girl' then;)xx"

she kept asking me and i was dwindling on the subject, so i made her try to guess. She didn't have any idea so i wrote "Aww, you really got no clue have you? i'm not gonna say anymore then :L xx"

Was this the right thing to do? it feels so
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I am not a fully developed Don Juan or anything, but the whole idea of writing about 'the perfect girl' on facebook, seems sorta needy and nice guyish. What you should do is tease her all the time and escalate the 'sexual' instead of the romantical. Refuse to believe that the girl you're trying to score is sensible and virtous, treat her like she isn't any of that.
 

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@AN I thought so too but then again she like the nice guys (romantic stuff) and she's not a big fan of sexual stuff, either way i tease her and have a laugh with her :)

@NorwegianDJ i swear to god i will if she'd actually come out with me, i'm not one of those guys who's afraid to take risks :p
 

NorwegianDJ

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DubstepGuy said:
@AN I thought so too but then again she like the nice guys (romantic stuff) and she's not a big fan of sexual stuff, either way i tease her and have a laugh with her :)

@NorwegianDJ i swear to god i will if she'd actually come out with me, i'm not one of those guys who's afraid to take risks :p
Then Im sure you'd have no problem taking her aside and isolating her.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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DubstepGuy

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It's not that, she lives 3 houses away from me.. she says she'll come out but either forgets or reschedules and flakes :/
 

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DubstepGuy said:
It's not that, she lives 3 houses away from me.. she says she'll come out but either forgets or reschedules and flakes :/
Low interest.
 

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She lives 3 houses away from you? Give her a spur of the moment text "hey come outside and hangout Im in front of your house!" one night and go from there. If she wont even sneak out of her house for one night then her IL is low
 

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@Espi Thanks, when we first met i noticed she had low self esteem so i only complimented her when she said something like 'i'm ugly', and she'd argue against whatever i'd say :s

@DJ Bax Thats actually what i did the first time we met, it was about 3 am and we ended up just talking and stuff under a blanket until 6:30 am :D
 

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DubstepGuy said:
@Espi Thanks, when we first met i noticed she had low self esteem so i only complimented her when she said something like 'i'm ugly', and she'd argue against whatever i'd say :s

@DJ Bax Thats actually what i did the first time we met, it was about 3 am and we ended up just talking and stuff under a blanket until 6:30 am :D
AFC behavior...

I never rise to compliment-provokers like "im ugly." I compliment girls on my own terms. If a girl said "I'm ugly." I'd reply, "Yup."

And second, WHY U NO MAKE MOVE??? Under a blanket for 3.5 hours??? BRO.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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LMAO, i took it easy the first night and hug closed. the second night we did the same but inside and we were doing more kino, and i kiss closed :)
 

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That actually makes sense to me xD i'm gonna stop being AFC now and let her do what she wants. I'm thinking of starting approaches for the first time (i'm not nervous about that stuff, just never tried it :L) if she gets jealous, then i suppose i'll try again with her but if not, i'll just leave it :)
 

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DubstepGuy said:
I'm thinking of starting approaches for the first time (i'm not nervous about that stuff, just never tried it :L)
You're up for a surprise, good sir.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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