"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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any openers or routines>?

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hello friend. I am journeying into game i ask could you offer me sample openers and routines from gurus and yourselves. id truly appreciate it.


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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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hand your camera to a group of chicks and get them to start taking photos of you and your wing, invariably they will include themselves in these pictures and its on.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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thank you all i extremely appreciate it.
 

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Eh, nevermind...
 

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what do you guys think of this one, ive been trying to make up openers because im awful at approaching

ME: how much does a polar bear weigh??
HER: ummm.... i dont know, what?
ME: I dunno either but it breaks the ice ;)
and then continue to talk....

havent tried it yet, will do next time im out. in the next week or so. anyway as i said what would u rate this opener out of 10?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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one day you'll realize HOW you say something matters so much more than what you say
 

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ready123 said:
one day you'll realize HOW you say something matters so much more than what you say

SIGNED! :cool:
 

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im aware of that but you need something to say and for an unconfident guy starting out, memorising things to open with is extremely useful imo, anyway give honest opinions on my opener please :)
 

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it all depends on the place and her body language.. if she's the quiet type something like "you are looking awkward, don't worry people won't bite as hard as I" or if she's having a lot of fun. Hey there! easy on the fun stuff I might have to fine you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I really dont rate alot of those openers and things like 'your looking orkward' well thats more likely to make her feel orkward than respond happily id rather just go with the basics than that.
 

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sebastionay said:
im aware of that but you need something to say and for an unconfident guy starting out, memorising things to open with is extremely useful imo, anyway give honest opinions on my opener please :)
as long it's not cliche or wierd you can say anything. even "hi" is an effective opener as long as you have good energy

try this. look at where her attention is at, then make a funny comment about it. it'll help you learn how to "read" the girl
 

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I came up with a wicked one on the fly the other night at a bar/restaurant. My buddy is going through a divorce and he let me put on his wedding ring. I got it stuck on my ring finger of my left hand. I left it on for awhile, and noticed these two blondes at a table about 30 feet from us. I walked up to them and put both of my hands on the table and announced that I had a problem. Of course intrigued as to what my problem was I said "I need to figure out a way to get this ring off of my finger". They of course were wondering why i was trying to get "my" wedding ring off. At first I didnt say whether it was mine or my friends. I sat down next to one of the girls, and after about 5 minutes of convo and pulling on the ring it finally came off. Of course they were still undecided as to whether i was married/engaged, etc. I ended up leaving with the cuter ones number even after she refused at first by telling me she didnt give her number out but would take mine. I told her that I dont give mine out either as im having problems with stalkers and I dont deal with that well. She ended up giving me hers within about a minute. So the next day I bought a fake wedding ring at the mall, its a great prop.
 

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thanks brett, i can imagine ill have to be very suave to pull it off though :)
 

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Have the waitress take the girls over large waters with lemon in it and have her tell the girls that "That gentleman there is NOT interested."

Then, when they look at you, toast them like you sent them a real drink.

They'll either come up to you and confront you, which is fun.. or you can walk up to them (they'll pay attention to you)..say something silly.. "Thats the new thing in Russia..everyone gives each other water..you're not Russian are you? Do I look Russian?" then just go with it..
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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