I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yes that was very help full. im Learning to play using You tube. right now im learning so sick by neo.(my first song ever)... is this a good idea... i have to do alot of trial an error typ thing... i dont know how to read music, ( i have to wait till summer for the class to start) should i try to figure out sheet music on my own till class starts or keep doing the you tube thing?Deus ex Pianoforte said:Here's the drill. Playing the piano is all about building connections within your brain.
Let's say I play a measure 10 times, the correct way. But on the 11th time, I mess up a note. No big deal. But then I hit it again on the 13th time. Each time that I hit this wrong note, the connection in my brain that has been built up telling me how to play this measure correctly is weakened, and the wrong note connection is strengthened. How to conquer this? Slow down and do it right. Fight the urge to play faster than your ability allows with no mistakes. I've been playing the piano for over 13 years, and still have problems with this. But trust me, it'll serve you well to slow down and do it right.
90% of problems you encounter with playing the piano can be solved with "Slow practice". The way I take on a new piece is get a feel for it. Run through it with your right hand at a moderate pace, and get an idea of what challenges you may face. Do it with the left hand alone a few times, too. After you feel fairly comfortable playing the piece with each hand alone, start to very slowly put them together. If you find one hand lagging behind the other in a certain section, run through that part with that particular hand again and again and again and again until you OWN that particular section. Then try it again hands together.
Hope that helps you out. Let me know if you have any other questions.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I did when I was younger. It really helps you pick-up and learn things easily, whether it be education related or anything else.cyp6 said:Any one play the piano?
In short, practice to build muscle memory in order to be less reliant on actually thinking about what each hand needs to do.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Here's the drill. Playing the piano is all about building connections within your brain.
Let's say I play a measure 10 times, the correct way. But on the 11th time, I mess up a note. No big deal. But then I hit it again on the 13th time. Each time that I hit this wrong note, the connection in my brain that has been built up telling me how to play this measure correctly is weakened, and the wrong note connection is strengthened. How to conquer this? Slow down and do it right. Fight the urge to play faster than your ability allows with no mistakes. I've been playing the piano for over 13 years, and still have problems with this. But trust me, it'll serve you well to slow down and do it right.
90% of problems you encounter with playing the piano can be solved with "Slow practice". The way I take on a new piece is get a feel for it. Run through it with your right hand at a moderate pace, and get an idea of what challenges you may face. Do it with the left hand alone a few times, too. After you feel fairly comfortable playing the piece with each hand alone, start to very slowly put them together. If you find one hand lagging behind the other in a certain section, run through that part with that particular hand again and again and again and again until you OWN that particular section. Then try it again hands together.
Hope that helps you out. Let me know if you have any other questions.
Good advice BTW, easily understood.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Yes...in short..
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.