Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yes that was very help full. im Learning to play using You tube. right now im learning so sick by neo.(my first song ever)... is this a good idea... i have to do alot of trial an error typ thing... i dont know how to read music, ( i have to wait till summer for the class to start) should i try to figure out sheet music on my own till class starts or keep doing the you tube thing?Deus ex Pianoforte said:Here's the drill. Playing the piano is all about building connections within your brain.
Let's say I play a measure 10 times, the correct way. But on the 11th time, I mess up a note. No big deal. But then I hit it again on the 13th time. Each time that I hit this wrong note, the connection in my brain that has been built up telling me how to play this measure correctly is weakened, and the wrong note connection is strengthened. How to conquer this? Slow down and do it right. Fight the urge to play faster than your ability allows with no mistakes. I've been playing the piano for over 13 years, and still have problems with this. But trust me, it'll serve you well to slow down and do it right.
90% of problems you encounter with playing the piano can be solved with "Slow practice". The way I take on a new piece is get a feel for it. Run through it with your right hand at a moderate pace, and get an idea of what challenges you may face. Do it with the left hand alone a few times, too. After you feel fairly comfortable playing the piece with each hand alone, start to very slowly put them together. If you find one hand lagging behind the other in a certain section, run through that part with that particular hand again and again and again and again until you OWN that particular section. Then try it again hands together.
Hope that helps you out. Let me know if you have any other questions.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I did when I was younger. It really helps you pick-up and learn things easily, whether it be education related or anything else.cyp6 said:Any one play the piano?
In short, practice to build muscle memory in order to be less reliant on actually thinking about what each hand needs to do.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Here's the drill. Playing the piano is all about building connections within your brain.
Let's say I play a measure 10 times, the correct way. But on the 11th time, I mess up a note. No big deal. But then I hit it again on the 13th time. Each time that I hit this wrong note, the connection in my brain that has been built up telling me how to play this measure correctly is weakened, and the wrong note connection is strengthened. How to conquer this? Slow down and do it right. Fight the urge to play faster than your ability allows with no mistakes. I've been playing the piano for over 13 years, and still have problems with this. But trust me, it'll serve you well to slow down and do it right.
90% of problems you encounter with playing the piano can be solved with "Slow practice". The way I take on a new piece is get a feel for it. Run through it with your right hand at a moderate pace, and get an idea of what challenges you may face. Do it with the left hand alone a few times, too. After you feel fairly comfortable playing the piece with each hand alone, start to very slowly put them together. If you find one hand lagging behind the other in a certain section, run through that part with that particular hand again and again and again and again until you OWN that particular section. Then try it again hands together.
Hope that helps you out. Let me know if you have any other questions.
Good advice BTW, easily understood.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Yes...in short..
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.