Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Yes that was very help full. im Learning to play using You tube. right now im learning so sick by neo.(my first song ever)... is this a good idea... i have to do alot of trial an error typ thing... i dont know how to read music, ( i have to wait till summer for the class to start) should i try to figure out sheet music on my own till class starts or keep doing the you tube thing?Deus ex Pianoforte said:Here's the drill. Playing the piano is all about building connections within your brain.
Let's say I play a measure 10 times, the correct way. But on the 11th time, I mess up a note. No big deal. But then I hit it again on the 13th time. Each time that I hit this wrong note, the connection in my brain that has been built up telling me how to play this measure correctly is weakened, and the wrong note connection is strengthened. How to conquer this? Slow down and do it right. Fight the urge to play faster than your ability allows with no mistakes. I've been playing the piano for over 13 years, and still have problems with this. But trust me, it'll serve you well to slow down and do it right.
90% of problems you encounter with playing the piano can be solved with "Slow practice". The way I take on a new piece is get a feel for it. Run through it with your right hand at a moderate pace, and get an idea of what challenges you may face. Do it with the left hand alone a few times, too. After you feel fairly comfortable playing the piece with each hand alone, start to very slowly put them together. If you find one hand lagging behind the other in a certain section, run through that part with that particular hand again and again and again and again until you OWN that particular section. Then try it again hands together.
Hope that helps you out. Let me know if you have any other questions.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I did when I was younger. It really helps you pick-up and learn things easily, whether it be education related or anything else.cyp6 said:Any one play the piano?
In short, practice to build muscle memory in order to be less reliant on actually thinking about what each hand needs to do.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Here's the drill. Playing the piano is all about building connections within your brain.
Let's say I play a measure 10 times, the correct way. But on the 11th time, I mess up a note. No big deal. But then I hit it again on the 13th time. Each time that I hit this wrong note, the connection in my brain that has been built up telling me how to play this measure correctly is weakened, and the wrong note connection is strengthened. How to conquer this? Slow down and do it right. Fight the urge to play faster than your ability allows with no mistakes. I've been playing the piano for over 13 years, and still have problems with this. But trust me, it'll serve you well to slow down and do it right.
90% of problems you encounter with playing the piano can be solved with "Slow practice". The way I take on a new piece is get a feel for it. Run through it with your right hand at a moderate pace, and get an idea of what challenges you may face. Do it with the left hand alone a few times, too. After you feel fairly comfortable playing the piece with each hand alone, start to very slowly put them together. If you find one hand lagging behind the other in a certain section, run through that part with that particular hand again and again and again and again until you OWN that particular section. Then try it again hands together.
Hope that helps you out. Let me know if you have any other questions.
Good advice BTW, easily understood.Deus ex Pianoforte said:Yes...in short..
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.