Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
I have seen it occasionally too!DJsomeday said:I've seen some fat/ugly people be with really hot girls. I've seen it. It's all about the presence and what you think you deserve. I've seen it in action.
It's not "all about" anything, or you'd need just that. Clearly body shape indicates genetic fitness and that will be a factor in the subconscious decision. Sure there's "SOME" blimps that get hot women, but that doesn't mean that it's IRRELEVANT.DJsomeday said:I've seen some fat/ugly people be with really hot girls. I've seen it. It's all about the presence and what you think you deserve. I've seen it in action.
EDIT: presence as in what you display, for example i know people that when they enter a room everyone notices them or pays attention to them, i just something they irradiate. confidence/being sure of yourself goes a long way.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Not in my caseAragon034 said:"I love it when you call me big poppa..."
Fat = Unattractive 99% of the time.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Excellent post!!wjh said:Regardless of whether or not fat people can score sexy women, it is still a fact that healthy/fit men do better with women. So if all you want to do is highlight the fact that it's possible, wow big deal. Sometimes people survive falling from 16-story buildings. Now do you RECOMMEND people don't do anything about their/your weight? Of course not!
Being fit is BETTER LOOKING, which means it can ONLY improve your ability to attract. So stop rationalizing the fact that you can be fat/stay fat and still pull chicks and please, for your own health, do something about your weight.
Hey man you dont know the persons life story, it could have started when he was a little kid. Thats what happened to me, I ate complete **** during my elementary and middle school days thats why im big right now, I had no idea what I was doing.stuka1939 said:Excellent post!!
Nothing actually annoys me more than a short and out of shape looking guy. I feel like going up to these guys and saying,
"For God sakes man, you are already at a disadvantage for being short, why the hell are you fat, don't you want to attract cute women?"
I gotta disagree with this for a few reasons.SmoothTalker said:Come on HandyAndy, that's bull****. Maybe you didn't know much about nutrition when you were a kid, but it doesn't take a dietician to know donuts/soft drinks/candy/chocolate = fat ass.
I use to eat a lot of crap too and was about 25 pounds overweight in middle school. I lost the vast majority of it quite quickly by getting my act together.
If you wanted to get fit you could do it in 1 year max with reasonable effort. Life story is just an excuse.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.