You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I have seen it occasionally too!DJsomeday said:I've seen some fat/ugly people be with really hot girls. I've seen it. It's all about the presence and what you think you deserve. I've seen it in action.
It's not "all about" anything, or you'd need just that. Clearly body shape indicates genetic fitness and that will be a factor in the subconscious decision. Sure there's "SOME" blimps that get hot women, but that doesn't mean that it's IRRELEVANT.DJsomeday said:I've seen some fat/ugly people be with really hot girls. I've seen it. It's all about the presence and what you think you deserve. I've seen it in action.
EDIT: presence as in what you display, for example i know people that when they enter a room everyone notices them or pays attention to them, i just something they irradiate. confidence/being sure of yourself goes a long way.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Not in my caseAragon034 said:"I love it when you call me big poppa..."
Fat = Unattractive 99% of the time.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Excellent post!!wjh said:Regardless of whether or not fat people can score sexy women, it is still a fact that healthy/fit men do better with women. So if all you want to do is highlight the fact that it's possible, wow big deal. Sometimes people survive falling from 16-story buildings. Now do you RECOMMEND people don't do anything about their/your weight? Of course not!
Being fit is BETTER LOOKING, which means it can ONLY improve your ability to attract. So stop rationalizing the fact that you can be fat/stay fat and still pull chicks and please, for your own health, do something about your weight.
Hey man you dont know the persons life story, it could have started when he was a little kid. Thats what happened to me, I ate complete **** during my elementary and middle school days thats why im big right now, I had no idea what I was doing.stuka1939 said:Excellent post!!
Nothing actually annoys me more than a short and out of shape looking guy. I feel like going up to these guys and saying,
"For God sakes man, you are already at a disadvantage for being short, why the hell are you fat, don't you want to attract cute women?"
I gotta disagree with this for a few reasons.SmoothTalker said:Come on HandyAndy, that's bull****. Maybe you didn't know much about nutrition when you were a kid, but it doesn't take a dietician to know donuts/soft drinks/candy/chocolate = fat ass.
I use to eat a lot of crap too and was about 25 pounds overweight in middle school. I lost the vast majority of it quite quickly by getting my act together.
If you wanted to get fit you could do it in 1 year max with reasonable effort. Life story is just an excuse.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.