You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I have seen it occasionally too!DJsomeday said:I've seen some fat/ugly people be with really hot girls. I've seen it. It's all about the presence and what you think you deserve. I've seen it in action.
It's not "all about" anything, or you'd need just that. Clearly body shape indicates genetic fitness and that will be a factor in the subconscious decision. Sure there's "SOME" blimps that get hot women, but that doesn't mean that it's IRRELEVANT.DJsomeday said:I've seen some fat/ugly people be with really hot girls. I've seen it. It's all about the presence and what you think you deserve. I've seen it in action.
EDIT: presence as in what you display, for example i know people that when they enter a room everyone notices them or pays attention to them, i just something they irradiate. confidence/being sure of yourself goes a long way.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Not in my caseAragon034 said:"I love it when you call me big poppa..."
Fat = Unattractive 99% of the time.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Excellent post!!wjh said:Regardless of whether or not fat people can score sexy women, it is still a fact that healthy/fit men do better with women. So if all you want to do is highlight the fact that it's possible, wow big deal. Sometimes people survive falling from 16-story buildings. Now do you RECOMMEND people don't do anything about their/your weight? Of course not!
Being fit is BETTER LOOKING, which means it can ONLY improve your ability to attract. So stop rationalizing the fact that you can be fat/stay fat and still pull chicks and please, for your own health, do something about your weight.
Hey man you dont know the persons life story, it could have started when he was a little kid. Thats what happened to me, I ate complete **** during my elementary and middle school days thats why im big right now, I had no idea what I was doing.stuka1939 said:Excellent post!!
Nothing actually annoys me more than a short and out of shape looking guy. I feel like going up to these guys and saying,
"For God sakes man, you are already at a disadvantage for being short, why the hell are you fat, don't you want to attract cute women?"
I gotta disagree with this for a few reasons.SmoothTalker said:Come on HandyAndy, that's bull****. Maybe you didn't know much about nutrition when you were a kid, but it doesn't take a dietician to know donuts/soft drinks/candy/chocolate = fat ass.
I use to eat a lot of crap too and was about 25 pounds overweight in middle school. I lost the vast majority of it quite quickly by getting my act together.
If you wanted to get fit you could do it in 1 year max with reasonable effort. Life story is just an excuse.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.