Any cases of an old oneitis coming back and you didn't give a fvck?

[teddy]

She reappears years later and you just didn't give a ****.

It doesn't even have to be a oneitis, just a girl who rejected you in the past.

 

[orbion2013]

yeh one girl i was seeing for about a year, got the onitis for her... she was a solid hb8, but was a keen weed smoker... anyhow, things got crazy, we had a big fallout and parted seperate ways!

dropped all contact with her... couldn't deal with her drama... anyhow 6 months later, out of the blue, she starts calling me.... 22 missed calls, 6 text messages!

i just ignored the b@tch and got on with my day

 

[joker79]

yeah they always come back, just for validation. My reaction? absolute indifference (and politeness of course)

 

[orbion2013]

did any of your exes come back & you just used her for sex, then got rid of her?

 

[teddy]

bump

 

[Poonani Maker]

Yes, not only that but her sister too who's 4-5 years younger (and fatter)...this Christmas she says, "oh, just the person I was looking for..." when I ran into her at some real estate/financial place. I was like, yeah whatever, you can tell yo sister that too haha (divoreced to a fireman)...both of these b!tches are still single at 34 and 30 years old. The sister I ran into lives in a very old small 4-plex YET works in all these high-end (maybe SHELL-game type scam-type) financial places. It doesn't make sense that she'd be working in all these (you'd expect) high dollar offices, but it's probably the church she goes to and the people she knows, but they have both discarded/overlooked good men who'd sincerely WANTED them in the past/dreamed about them and pursued them because they "were too good." Both used coke that I know of...I never did in my lifetime. Both tomboyish, shot guns etc etc.

I still love her sister, but I'm like now, uh, hah, you just want me for my money NOW. too bad, b!tches

 

[teddy]

Yes, not only that but her sister too who's 4-5 years younger (and fatter)...this Christmas she says, "oh, just the person I was looking for..." when I ran into her at some real estate/financial place. I was like, yeah whatever, you can tell yo sister that too haha (divoreced to a fireman)...both of these b!tches are still single at 34 and 30 years old. The sister I ran into lives in a very old small 4-plex YET works in all these high-end (maybe SHELL-game type scam-type) financial places. It doesn't make sense that she'd be working in all these (you'd expect) high dollar offices, but it's probably the church she goes to and the people she knows, but they have both discarded/overlooked good men who'd sincerely WANTED them in the past/dreamed about them and pursued them because they "were too good." Both used coke that I know of...I never did in my lifetime. Both tomboyish, shot guns etc etc.

I still love her sister, but I'm like now, uh, hah, you just want me for my money NOW. too bad, b!tches

It's funny because I had an old oneitis from a couple years ago. She was chubby, maybe a 6 face-wise, but our personalities jibed really well and she was always touching me when she could.

However, she had a boyfriend. When they broke up, I made my move, she reluctantly (very, very reluctantly) went on a date with me and during the date she did her best to sabotage it and act uninterested and when we sat down to talk she started talking about her ex and saying how she was in love with him.

After that, I got rid of her and didn't talk to her even when I ran into her. Just said hey in a neutral voice. Meanwhile, she started to pursue other guys, guys that were like 8 or higher and tall and muscular. In other words, SHE of all people thought she was too good for me.

A year later, she texts me asking me if I'm going to be somewhere that she's going to be, all smiley face like. I didn't reply. Felt good.

 

[Robert28]

I've had many instances of girls who wouldn't give me the time of day, only to act all friendly and complimentary to me after I started working out. I just blew them off. I wasn't good enough for them back then and I sure as sh!t can do better then them now. The ironic thing is while my looks improved, most of them got ugly and fat, so NOW they show interest. HA! yeah, I did all this work to wind up second choice to some girl whose looks went to sh!t and she gained 20 lbs.

 

[papawapa]

I dated a girl in high school for a couple years. After we graduated she hit me up a couple times. The last time she showed up at my house drunk in the middle of the night. I pounded her out and never talked to her again.

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

Yes.

I'm pretty quick to next a chick these days, as compared to my past.

I'll put in my bid (i.e., flirt, ask out, try to bed, and so on... not always in that order ) and if she bites, I'll pursue more.

If she is a little coy (i.e., predictable sh!ttest to see if you are "sincere" about your interest), I might pursue just a bit more depending on how hot she is and what my own interest level is.

All that said, if she simply doesn't play along, I assume either (1) she has no interest or (2) she has terrible girl-game (e.g., playing hard to get). I have no patience with either.

So, I next them. If I see them out again, I MIGHT be cordial, but I do not go out of my way to talk to them, AT ALL. If it's unavoidable, I'll engage briefly, but simply no orbiting whatsoever. She missed her opportunity.

And, I find, if you treat them like you simply DO NOT GIVE A DAM about them and their opinion of you anymore, they suddenly try to get your attention, try to elicit from you some validation, etc. I don't give it to them unless they really, really, work for it. Seldom happens.

Now, let me answer your question more directly...

What happens to me, my perceptions, during this process? (1) I've judged her and either her bad attitude and/or her lousy girl game. She comes out the loser here. (2) Any puzzy goggles I might have been wearing earlier increasingly disappear. Girls I was all into subsequently sometime seem pathetic, or ordinary, or pitiable. Me to self: "I can't believe I really wanted to hit that, get her out... she now seems so transparent and shallow." And this not so much retrospective rationalization but rather once you've shut down your interest and pursuit you can see how your perspective and perception those things were fogging it up in the first place.

Last year, there were three girls I not only wanted to bang but also hoped to date, spin, and maybe in turn into a GF. I failed... or rather, I failed as did each of them. Too much BS, coyness, nonsense, bad girl game, etc. I walked away from each.

Today, each of them are very friendly with me when I see them. That is, I didn't blow my "value" as a good guy to know and have pleasant interactions with.

But, seeing them how I see them now, there's not a chance in the world I'd date ANY of them. Bang them? Yup....once. Date? NO WAY

Funny how things work/look once you've internalized the willingness to walk away. "Oneitis" basically becomes a thing of your past (or, at least, increasingly and increasingly so).

Good luck!

 

[teddy]

Yes.

I'm pretty quick to next a chick these days, as compared to my past.

I'll put in my bid (i.e., flirt, ask out, try to bed, and so on... not always in that order ) and if she bites, I'll pursue more.

If is a little coy (i.e., predictable sh!ttest to see if you are "sincere" about your interest), I might pursue just a bit more depending on how hot she is and what my own interest level is.

All that said, if she simply doesn't play along, I assume either (1) she has no interest or (2) she has terrible girl-game. I have no patience with either.

So, I next time. If I see the out again, I MIGHT be cordial, but I do not go out of my way to talk to them, AT ALL. If it's unavoidable, I'll engage briefly, but simply no orbiting whatsoever. She missed her opportunity.

And, I find, if you treat them like you simply DO NOT GIVE A DAM about them and their opinion of you anymore, they suddenly try to get your attention, try to elicit from you some validation, etc. I don't give it to them unless they really, really, work for it. Seldom happens.

Now, let me answer your question more directly...

What happens to me, my perceptions, during this process? (1) I've judged her and her either her bad attitude and/or her lousy girl game. She comes out the loser here. (2) Any puzzy goggles I might have been wearing earlier increasingly disappear. Girls I was all into subsequently sometime seem pathetic, or ordinary, or pitiable. Me to self: "I can't believe I really wanted to hit that, get her out... she now seems so transparent and shallow." And this not so much retrospective rationalization but rather once you've shut down your interest and pursuit you can perspective and perception those things were fogging up in the first place.

Last year, there were three girls I not only wanted to bang but also hoped to date, spin, and maybe in turn into a GF. I failed... or rather, I failed as did each of them. Too much BS, coyness, nonsense, bad girl game, etc. I walked away from each.

Today, each of them are very friendly with me when I see them. That is, I didn't blow my "value" as a good guy to know and have pleasant interactions with.

But, seeing them how I see them know, there's not a chance in the world I'd date ANY of them. Bang them? Yup....once. Date? NO WAY

Funny how things work/look once you've internalized the willingness to walk away. "Oneitis" basically becomes a thing of your past (or, at least, increasingly and increasingly so).

Good luck!

This is a good post and what I hope to aspire to be. I'm becoming increasingly more like this. The first time I walked away from a girl of my own accord was scary because I didn't know I actually had that power. Caused much second guessing due to my lack of self-confidence.

 

[Dgwizdal]

Always come back. The difference is now you know how to play them better than they did you.