"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Nope. Nice body language, nice dressing, haircut fits your face .. Your a pretty attractive white dude. I mean that in a totally heterosexual way
 
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I'm not gay but you're good looking enough that women should be telling you, not horny, lonely men like me.
 
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Your a good looking guy. Its interesting that you post on this message board or have any difficulty with women at all to be honest.

How do you feel your game is weak?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How old are you? If you're 25 plus maybe grow some facial hair. For you prob a 5 oclock shadow would be best.

Another thing is you should accessorize. Maybe some jewelry? It doesn't have to be flashy if that's not your thing.

Other than that you're good dude. I don't see why it would be hard for you to pull a lot of girls
 
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I think I am pretty AFC to be honest. I'm 22, gonna be 23 in August. I get hit on a fair amount; in fact my only pickups are basically me being hit on. Occasionally I'll work up the nerve to approach. Generally, when I go out (I'm going out later tonight), I'll get hit on once or twice, but only close (bang or at least lead to a bang) one out of like every 4 times.

The biggest thing is in the girls who I don't hit on/don't hit on me I feel bad energy from them to me. I think it's in my head/AFC. I basically need approval or feel like there is something wrong with how I look. I sometimes look to see if girls just brush by the other guys the same way they do to me. I also have occasional mild acne flareups related to food/digestive issues which I'm getting help for; it doesn't really change the way I look that much but it can affect confidence.

Basically, I guess I feel like good looking guys would be swarmed everywhere they go lol.
 
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djokovic77 said:
I think I am pretty AFC to be honest. I'm 22, gonna be 23 in August. I get hit on a fair amount; in fact my only pickups are basically me being hit on. Occasionally I'll work up the nerve to approach. Generally, when I go out (I'm going out later tonight), I'll get hit on once or twice, but only close (bang or at least lead to a bang) one out of like every 4 times.

The biggest thing is in the girls who I don't hit on/don't hit on me I feel bad energy from them to me. I think it's in my head/AFC. I basically need approval or feel like there is something wrong with how I look. I sometimes look to see if girls just brush by the other guys the same way they do to me. I also have occasional mild acne flareups related to food/digestive issues which I'm getting help for; it doesn't really change the way I look that much but it can affect confidence.

Basically, I guess I feel like good looking guys would be swarmed everywhere they go lol.
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Why is it that people expect everyone to like them let alone be attracted to them? Some guys could have a million girls after them and just ONE who wasn't would make a guy feel unattractive.

Why the hell would you feel 'bad energy' from a girl who doesn't even know you? Confirm your thoughts by talking to them like a normal person. You may wind up surprising yourself.
 
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djokovic77 said:
I think I am pretty AFC to be honest. I'm 22, gonna be 23 in August. I get hit on a fair amount; in fact my only pickups are basically me being hit on. Occasionally I'll work up the nerve to approach. Generally, when I go out (I'm going out later tonight), I'll get hit on once or twice, but only close (bang or at least lead to a bang) one out of like every 4 times.

If you get girls hitting on you, even once a night, AND you are closing one out of FOUR, you are ahead of 90% of guys.



The biggest thing is in the girls who I don't hit on/don't hit on me I feel bad energy from them to me. I think it's in my head/AFC. I basically need approval or feel like there is something wrong with how I look. I sometimes look to see if girls just brush by the other guys the same way they do to me. I also have occasional mild acne flareups related to food/digestive issues which I'm getting help for; it doesn't really change the way I look that much but it can affect confidence.

Basically, I guess I feel like good looking guys would be swarmed everywhere they go lol.
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Focus on what I have in bold.
 
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WHERE DO YOU GO? O__O

Usually the places I go to (not that many) I get hit on by whales and UGs but where are the places you normally get hit by girls?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Just dive bars and stuff like that. I usually try to go when there's a good crowd but not too many people.
 
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djokovic77 Are you Serbian?
 
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that's the problem... I never been to bars nor clubs.

I get hit a lot by elder woman. Seriously, a LOT. That's where most of my flirts comes from.

Girls my ages just plainly ignore me or just pretend to do so.

Need to visit one of those places and see how it goes. I just dont want to go alone due to lack of experience.
What other places do you recommend?
 
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Leopold said:
that's the problem... I never been to bars nor clubs.

I get hit a lot by elder woman. Seriously, a LOT. That's where most of my flirts comes from.

Girls my ages just plainly ignore me or just pretend to do so.

Need to visit one of those places and see how it goes. I just dont want to go alone due to lack of experience.
What other places do you recommend?
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I recommend ALL of you get the F*CK off my message board tonight and go out to a busy nightclub and PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE. No excuses.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Haha Good Advice. Yeah I recommend dive bars if you go alone. If you have a wingman, then you can go to social venues that have dancing/games etc. Or a rooftop bar/club. Again you'd probably feel more comfortable with a wingman in a place like that. But to be honest, most of my success is from slightly older women (usually mid 20's to early 30's) hitting on me in dive bars. By dive I don't mean dingy or gross, I just mean small, intimate and nothing special in terms of theme or atmosphere.
 
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