I have been ignoring some girl I have been dating because she was ignoring me and now all of a sudden she texts me out of the blue saying Hi! How long do you guys wait to respond, a few hours a whole day? how long? thanks in advance
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Another "Ignoring women success"!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
SgtSplacker
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It's just a test to see if you are interested. I'd reply and tell her you are busy and you will reply to her later. Wait a day and hit her up, might be a good time to set something up.
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Dude, 5 unanswered messages??? Super high interest there.
You don't have to wait anymore. Just reply.
All these rules that people use for "How long do I wait to reply?" are stupid. You know what happens when you set a timeframe for yourself for replying? You obsess over it during that whole period. You think about what you're gonna say and how she might respond, blah blah blah etc. No bueno.
Reply when you feel like it and when it's convenient for you. Just have other stuff going on in your life so that replying to her isn't the only thing you have to do.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
devilkingx2
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okay, the iron is hot, time to strike
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Say "hi"
dustmuffin
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well what did he do? Did he plow the field and sow his seed?