I have been ignoring some girl I have been dating because she was ignoring me and now all of a sudden she texts me out of the blue saying Hi! How long do you guys wait to respond, a few hours a whole day? how long? thanks in advance
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Another "Ignoring women success"!
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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It's just a test to see if you are interested. I'd reply and tell her you are busy and you will reply to her later. Wait a day and hit her up, might be a good time to set something up.
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Dude, 5 unanswered messages??? Super high interest there.
You don't have to wait anymore. Just reply.
All these rules that people use for "How long do I wait to reply?" are stupid. You know what happens when you set a timeframe for yourself for replying? You obsess over it during that whole period. You think about what you're gonna say and how she might respond, blah blah blah etc. No bueno.
Reply when you feel like it and when it's convenient for you. Just have other stuff going on in your life so that replying to her isn't the only thing you have to do.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
devilkingx2
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okay, the iron is hot, time to strike
wifehunter
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Say "hi"
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well what did he do? Did he plow the field and sow his seed?