I have been ignoring some girl I have been dating because she was ignoring me and now all of a sudden she texts me out of the blue saying Hi! How long do you guys wait to respond, a few hours a whole day? how long? thanks in advance
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Another "Ignoring women success"!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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It's just a test to see if you are interested. I'd reply and tell her you are busy and you will reply to her later. Wait a day and hit her up, might be a good time to set something up.
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Dude, 5 unanswered messages??? Super high interest there.
You don't have to wait anymore. Just reply.
All these rules that people use for "How long do I wait to reply?" are stupid. You know what happens when you set a timeframe for yourself for replying? You obsess over it during that whole period. You think about what you're gonna say and how she might respond, blah blah blah etc. No bueno.
Reply when you feel like it and when it's convenient for you. Just have other stuff going on in your life so that replying to her isn't the only thing you have to do.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
devilkingx2
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okay, the iron is hot, time to strike
wifehunter
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Say "hi"
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well what did he do? Did he plow the field and sow his seed?