diplomatic_lies
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I've noticed while most guys here are blaming the woman or calling the man an AFC, nobody has actually offered any sympathy to the baby...
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I think what you are describing was called a "father" at one time. My gut (and a little cynicism) tells me that this guy is just "her baby's daddy."penkitten said:wouldnt a righteous man just take his own child out of it and divorce her quietly
and quickly?
I thought that would go without saying.diplomatic_lies said:I've noticed while most guys here are blaming the woman or calling the man an AFC, nobody has actually offered any sympathy to the baby...
The expression "better off dead" came to mind.Francisco d'Anconia said:I thought that would go without saying.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Sad yet possibly true in a morbid kind of way.Vulpine said:The expression "better off dead" came to mind...
See, you thought of the environment and future the kids are facing too, didn't you?Francisco d'Anconia said:Sad yet possibly true in a morbid kind of way.
Absolutely. People are having children mostly because they can and seldom because they want to. Of course I'm talking about people who aren't in an established, committed relationship. It's not commonplace to come across couples who are rushing into marriage who aren't pregnant already.Vulpine said:See, you thought of the environment and future the kids are facing too, didn't you?
This is especially true in my country, where some women have ten children in order to get government support.Francisco d'Anconia said:Absolutely. People are having children mostly because they can and seldom because they want to. Of course I'm talking about people who aren't in an established, committed relationship. It's not commonplace to come across couples who are rushing into marriage who aren't pregnant already.
i remember when i was small, fathers were fathers and not just baby daddies.Francisco d'Anconia said:I think what you are describing was called a "father" at one time. My gut (and a little cynicism) tells me that this guy is just "her baby's daddy."
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
i did on page one where i said poor kid.diplomatic_lies said:I've noticed while most guys here are blaming the woman or calling the man an AFC, nobody has actually offered any sympathy to the baby...
A few years ago we were finding generations of families who were collecting government aid as their sole means of income. There would sometimes be three generations of families living in the same house, all collecting aid.djbr said:This is especially true in my country, where some women have ten children in order to get government support.
It may be perceived as an authoritarian measure, but it's necessary. People have children they can't care and/or provide for, and that makes a mess in the whole society.
this is what i deal with every day at work (hud apartment complex)Francisco d'Anconia said:Perhaps, but I didn't see the part in the constitution that said that everyone else had to support them with our taxes...![]()
Wasn't that the premise of the show Jessica Alba starred in, Dark Angel?diplomatic_lies said:Well the government could take over raising kids. All children would be raised in government facilities, bred from test tubes. Of course kids won't understand the meaning of love, but hey, gotta make sacrifices. We will create the ultimate society and conquer the world!ahahahahahahahahahhahshudsiojfsd!!!!!
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Do-Dee-Doo-Doo, Do-Dee-Doo-Doo, oooooooEEEEEOooooo..... :nervous:THE_ADDMAN said:did anyone notice that the guy was named "Deangelo"?
coincidence?![]()
diplomatic_lies said:Dunno, I got the idea from Huxely's "Brave New World". Its a great book, about a Utopian society where everyone is happy and satisfied, but complex emotions like love and care are illegal.