"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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thirdtimescharm

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First meeting was a sleepover...great fun, but leaving room for more. Attration level high. Good contact since, so it's gone beyond one-night stand.

Tomorrow night, I am supposed to attend a friend's birthday dinner.

Is it appropriate to invite her to attend with me? Honestly, I'd probably rather just go be anywhere alone with her, and considering our first time together was a trip straight back to my apartment, I'm not feeling the "dinner with friends" is the right direction just yet.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hey..I think your gut has provided you with the answer.
 

thirdtimescharm

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Yea Andy, you are right. I'm just torn on how to best make our next rendezvous happen.
 

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As much as I might get taken to task for this, I emailed her in a fairly light tone, without saying when, that I wanted to get together again. Her response was definite: she said she will call me tomorrow to make a plan, and would like to hang out again.

Now, I don't think this is a bad thing since it will be a chance for her to prove herself to me. If she calls, she shows that she does what she says. If she doesn't, it's an easy "next."
 

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The good news is that this woman did call me as advertsied and we saw each other again last night. She attended a show last night with friends, while I went to a street fest on my own but ended up running into a bunch of people I know. And then later in the evening, she texted me and she came to the bar where I was, and life is good.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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