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Bible_Belt said:"oh I'm sorry, what did you say again? I was looking at my phone."
Bump
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bible_Belt said:"oh I'm sorry, what did you say again? I was looking at my phone."
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I can picture this clearly :crackup:pdx1138 said:It certainly is.
I remember this one plate talking about a motorcycle trip in another state with some dude who would fly her in occasionally.
I reacted as if I didn't have a care in the world and told her I was happy for her and to have a good time.
her response: "maybe I shouldn't go"
:crackup:
If we are socially conditioned to play different roles in a relationship, why are many women about a guy's looks?JaegerPilot217 said:that they always or usually want us to lead, and whenever people argue that by saying "because your a Man, that's why, grow some balls" honestly makes me feel like making somebody squeal like a dog as I break their ****in' neck, hate how I was dealt with this card for being born a guy
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
What do you mean about a guys looks?sambwoy said:If we are socially conditioned to play different roles in a relationship, why are many women about a guy's looks?
I would've asked her to bring a souvenir next time. hahapdx1138 said:It certainly is.
I remember this one plate talking about a motorcycle trip in another state with some dude who would fly her in occasionally.
I reacted as if I didn't have a care in the world and told her I was happy for her and to have a good time.
her response: "maybe I shouldn't go"
:crackup:
Attraction in the looks department is based of what would produce the best offspring. If you find a particular female attractive, its your bodies way of saying "hey if I ****ed her our kids would come out good" This is the same for females, but to a lesser extent, as we all know the other factors that play a role in female attraction. if a female isn't attracted to you cause' your ugly, step you other game up.sambwoy said:If we are socially conditioned to play different roles in a relationship, why are many women about a guy's looks?
If they aren't attracted, they'll act condescending to you. I have had a ton of this behaviour before when I expressed my problems with body image in the past- all you get is criticism/examination but no help, not just looks but daily tasks/social interactions and how another person goes about life, not just men but other women. The YouTube/Facebook and celeb magazine era also exemplifies this, as well as what I have witnessed in my youth.SmooveMooves said:if a female isn't attracted to you cause' your ugly, step you other game up.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I feel you bro, the truth is, they don't gain anything. The world is cruel. Humans are selfish and shallow creatures. Did you know anytime you gossip or talk about someone else you stimulate dopamine receptors? Knowledge is the key I believe, this era that we live in is terrible.sambwoy said:If they aren't attracted, they'll act condescending to you. I have had a ton of this behaviour before when I expressed my problems with body image in the past- all you get is criticism/examination but no help, not just looks but daily tasks/social interactions and how another person goes about life, not just men but other women. The YouTube/Facebook and celeb magazine era also exemplifies this, as well as what I have witnessed in my youth.
What do they gain from acting like this- looking their noses down at a man or woman who need psychological/mental help as well as image help?
In spite what I put about YouTube/Facebook, it is good that younger guys can go on the internet and get advice, away from BS/propaganda TV and people's behaviour. I had a hard time worrying about interactions with women generally already, let alone getting the approval of one you like, worrying about 'was I rude?' or 'did I do the right thing?'. Why do I care anyway? Is it because attractive women can, by default, get more social power? Am I actually gay?SmooveMooves said:I feel you bro, the truth is, they don't gain anything. The world is cruel. Humans are selfish and shallow creatures. Did you know anytime you gossip or talk about someone else you stimulate dopamine receptors? Knowledge is the key I believe, this era that we live in is terrible.
Well first, sexual orientation just depends on what sex your attracted too, so if yourself capable of getting sexually excited over the same sex, then you're gay. Next, you should never be seeking approval of a woman, especially if its one you like. That's where they get us. Society has conditioned men to "prove themselves" to women as if they are the prize, when in fact its the complete opposite.sambwoy said:In spite what I put about YouTube/Facebook, it is good that younger guys can go on the internet and get advice, away from BS/propaganda TV and people's behaviour. I had a hard time worrying about interactions with women generally already, let alone getting the approval of one you like, worrying about 'was I rude?' or 'did I do the right thing?'. Why do I care anyway? Is it because attractive women can, by default, get more social power? Am I actually gay?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
If I'm not gay, then why do I let this bother me? A woman's approval? Why? Okay, I don't want children and I would have sex with a condom and sure people say sex isn't all that, but still....all this worrying about 'was I rude? did I say the right thing?', even just socially, never mind flirting/attraction.SmooveMooves said:Well first, sexual orientation just depends on what sex your attracted too, so if yourself capable of getting sexually excited over the same sex, then you're gay.
Because in a current society HB3's walk around like Angelina Jolie and betas just looking to get their **** wet take action. lmaoPeasantPlayer said:Sexual attraction has to do with what offspring you would produce? Why are there so many ugly people then lol
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.