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Don Juan
Bible_Belt said:"oh I'm sorry, what did you say again? I was looking at my phone."
Bump
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bible_Belt said:"oh I'm sorry, what did you say again? I was looking at my phone."
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I can picture this clearly :crackup:pdx1138 said:It certainly is.
I remember this one plate talking about a motorcycle trip in another state with some dude who would fly her in occasionally.
I reacted as if I didn't have a care in the world and told her I was happy for her and to have a good time.
her response: "maybe I shouldn't go"
:crackup:
If we are socially conditioned to play different roles in a relationship, why are many women about a guy's looks?JaegerPilot217 said:that they always or usually want us to lead, and whenever people argue that by saying "because your a Man, that's why, grow some balls" honestly makes me feel like making somebody squeal like a dog as I break their ****in' neck, hate how I was dealt with this card for being born a guy
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
What do you mean about a guys looks?sambwoy said:If we are socially conditioned to play different roles in a relationship, why are many women about a guy's looks?
I would've asked her to bring a souvenir next time. hahapdx1138 said:It certainly is.
I remember this one plate talking about a motorcycle trip in another state with some dude who would fly her in occasionally.
I reacted as if I didn't have a care in the world and told her I was happy for her and to have a good time.
her response: "maybe I shouldn't go"
:crackup:
Attraction in the looks department is based of what would produce the best offspring. If you find a particular female attractive, its your bodies way of saying "hey if I ****ed her our kids would come out good" This is the same for females, but to a lesser extent, as we all know the other factors that play a role in female attraction. if a female isn't attracted to you cause' your ugly, step you other game up.sambwoy said:If we are socially conditioned to play different roles in a relationship, why are many women about a guy's looks?
If they aren't attracted, they'll act condescending to you. I have had a ton of this behaviour before when I expressed my problems with body image in the past- all you get is criticism/examination but no help, not just looks but daily tasks/social interactions and how another person goes about life, not just men but other women. The YouTube/Facebook and celeb magazine era also exemplifies this, as well as what I have witnessed in my youth.SmooveMooves said:if a female isn't attracted to you cause' your ugly, step you other game up.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
I feel you bro, the truth is, they don't gain anything. The world is cruel. Humans are selfish and shallow creatures. Did you know anytime you gossip or talk about someone else you stimulate dopamine receptors? Knowledge is the key I believe, this era that we live in is terrible.sambwoy said:If they aren't attracted, they'll act condescending to you. I have had a ton of this behaviour before when I expressed my problems with body image in the past- all you get is criticism/examination but no help, not just looks but daily tasks/social interactions and how another person goes about life, not just men but other women. The YouTube/Facebook and celeb magazine era also exemplifies this, as well as what I have witnessed in my youth.
What do they gain from acting like this- looking their noses down at a man or woman who need psychological/mental help as well as image help?
In spite what I put about YouTube/Facebook, it is good that younger guys can go on the internet and get advice, away from BS/propaganda TV and people's behaviour. I had a hard time worrying about interactions with women generally already, let alone getting the approval of one you like, worrying about 'was I rude?' or 'did I do the right thing?'. Why do I care anyway? Is it because attractive women can, by default, get more social power? Am I actually gay?SmooveMooves said:I feel you bro, the truth is, they don't gain anything. The world is cruel. Humans are selfish and shallow creatures. Did you know anytime you gossip or talk about someone else you stimulate dopamine receptors? Knowledge is the key I believe, this era that we live in is terrible.
Well first, sexual orientation just depends on what sex your attracted too, so if yourself capable of getting sexually excited over the same sex, then you're gay. Next, you should never be seeking approval of a woman, especially if its one you like. That's where they get us. Society has conditioned men to "prove themselves" to women as if they are the prize, when in fact its the complete opposite.sambwoy said:In spite what I put about YouTube/Facebook, it is good that younger guys can go on the internet and get advice, away from BS/propaganda TV and people's behaviour. I had a hard time worrying about interactions with women generally already, let alone getting the approval of one you like, worrying about 'was I rude?' or 'did I do the right thing?'. Why do I care anyway? Is it because attractive women can, by default, get more social power? Am I actually gay?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
If I'm not gay, then why do I let this bother me? A woman's approval? Why? Okay, I don't want children and I would have sex with a condom and sure people say sex isn't all that, but still....all this worrying about 'was I rude? did I say the right thing?', even just socially, never mind flirting/attraction.SmooveMooves said:Well first, sexual orientation just depends on what sex your attracted too, so if yourself capable of getting sexually excited over the same sex, then you're gay.
Because in a current society HB3's walk around like Angelina Jolie and betas just looking to get their **** wet take action. lmaoPeasantPlayer said:Sexual attraction has to do with what offspring you would produce? Why are there so many ugly people then lol
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.