"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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annoyed how ex still talks to me, but for lame reasons

j8snx1

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okay, so ive already decided not to burn bridges b/w me and her but it's not cool how she, as well as other people on my AIM list, talk to me, and ONLY talk to me to get something out of me

just a while ago she IMs me with a casual tone of heys and how are yous. as a DJ i just hit off my usual convo stuff. my c&f and what not is wasted and she immediately asks for what she wanted to ask me (**** like "do you know so-and-so's phone number?) then she stops talking. just to be a good guy, i try to keep the convo going for fun, and immediate response is "brb" or some other lousy excuse to ditch and f*ck around with other friends.

i dont want to be a jerk to her or any of my "friends" but sh*t like that only fuels my passion to cuss them out and tell them to piss off and never talk to me ever again.

SO....

AS A recovering and still growing DJ, what should i do with ppl like that? :box:

PS: Im very tempted to say something like "dont f*cking IM me if you're going to just ask for stupid self-serving, greedy-@$$, worthless sh*t and then go on to pretend like I dont exist anymore."
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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donpepot

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keep your cool...just be indifferent and polite...be unphased by the break up..she just want to get your attention...you see the first thing she will feel is...her ego will be bruised...keep ot up...act you dont care and have no grudges... and cut her calls short... about your friends just show to them your cool..and by the way..dont ever mention about that your been involved to this site espesially to yur friemds if dhe cought your intentions...it may not work...
 

Phat

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ur bein to nice to her man.. just block her.
 

WhAcKeD!

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I've got an idea, maybe you should stop talking to her?

Seems like your stuck in the past, pulling DJ moves on your ex, get over her and stop talking to her.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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donpepot

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be cool and keep your composure and confidence and be the prize and youl see
 
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